#tommygrace

Anyway, I just saw a post from a Lizzie fan, who made a whole post about how Tommy doesn't touch people but there are times when he wants to communicate something he grabs the face to make them pay attention, and the examples she gives are that he is like that with Grace and Lizzie 🤣🤣🤣 Are these people kidding?

He only grabs Lizzie for a second, in S6, when she started complaining that he doesn't feel anything, and as always, Tommy starts manipulating her with sex," when we go home we go to bed" , it's the only time in the entire show, and Lizzie's fans posting about it, as if it were something romantic, or vulnerable, and to be able to say that he treats Lizzie the same as he treats Grace 🤦🏻‍♀️ I can't with these people.

Hi, so nice to hear from you!

(I am so sorry for this late reply, I've barely been on here lately and did not notice the notification that I got this ask😭)

I think something that they're missing is the way he treats both women. With Lizzie, he's often rough and almost aggressive (not in a sexy way). Most of their sex scenes are from behind cause it's not a personal act for him with her (pretty sure this implication was actually included in the script for their sex scene in S2). That's why she gets so pissed off when he turns her around when they're married. She sees these things and wants to be respected like a wife. On the other hand, he's passionate and loving with Grace. Don't think he's ever manhandled her in any way.

I know you didn't mention the sex scenes, but they are one of the best examples to show the contrast between these two very different relationships in my opinion.

I miss your post about Tommy and Grace.

I wanted to ask you about a scene from S2. Tommy has sex with May, and they seem to have a good time, especially May...well yeah..😏 But then we see that when Tommy arrives at the office, the first thing he does is call Grace, when before we see that he tries to forget her. I wonder what was going through his mind?. Two years thinking about her, every day, and he only slept with prostitutes. He knows May, and he likes her, but does being with her make him miss Grace more? Maybe he realize that no one is going to make him feel the way Grace makes him feel.

What do you think of that scene?

Hello, love! I'm so sorry it took me so long to get to your ask. I'm just soo fucking devastated by Matthew Perry's death and so shattered to hear that.

Well, back to business. I think that Tommy really REALLY didn't want to let Grace go and forget about her (nothing has changed since then btw). And every step towards May is a step away from Grace. He still hopes the happy future with her, which he's dreamed of for so long, is not completely lost. It's like a beacon for him and he's not ready to give up this hope. He's very emotional attached to Grace and this is not something that happens to him often. Because she represents redemption and he still hopes that he can have a normal, quiet life if he is with her. And when Polly says "maybe it's time you forgot about her" it hurts, because deep down he knows he should move on and Polly is right, but he just doesn't want to. I think, he wants to escape the pain of the truth, so bending Lizzie over a desk seems a quite good solution to stop his racing thoughts by using physical activity as some sort of distraction. Sex has always been one of his main coping mechanisms. Lizzie, May, Tatiana, prostitutes... It never seemed to me like he was making love to them, the way that shows he actually wants to love and not just fuck them (especially considering his previous bad experience, when he allowed himself to let someone close to his heart and even dared to think that he could be loved. But it wasn't a mistake to do so, cos' Grace really loved him, he just didn't know it for sure yet). He always uses women and some of them don't mind though, but this is not a good thing at all.