Since that last post in 2015, I have been on and off Tinder quite a few times now. I’ve met interesting people, had a few first dates. Funnily enough, I have still not dated at 30 and I am fine/ on the way to being content with that. There has been one thing which has been recurring in the past two weeks on the app. The number of people in exclusive relationships who are on Tinder. No, these people are not in open relationships or any other arrangements, they’re simply on there secretly. While I prefer monogamy, I do not judge those who prefer other arrangements and accept that. The main thing that annoys me to no end, in this situation, is the lack of honesty. The gall of these men to say “I won’t be able to chat at all times and outside of this app” or even better the emotional blackmail, I quote; “Please... if you think this is not a good idea that we keep in touch.. I would not mind at all..just would be sad maybe...by losing someone as nice as you” It’s understandable that everyone’s situation is different. However, willingly saying he has someone and won’t be able to message at home just leaves me speechless. What about his partner? What must she be going through? The words above are selfish. He’s not a “bad” person just a flawed one like all of us are, looking for an escape from something. Things are never black and white, life is full of grey areas. On a positive note, while the journey of self validation is a long one but I’ve come a long way since 2015.