#tiedidentity

286: harmedtied, or tiedharmed

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DEFINITION 1 ⦂⠀Someone that is, for better or for worse; tied to having been harmed, or currently being harmed, and one is learning to live with the harm done to, and felt by oneself. (This definition may use "-tied" as a suffix to specify)

DEFINITION 2 ⦂⠀Someone that feels tied to having been harmed, or currently being harmed due to struggle or circumstance, but doesn't agree with, has a negative connotation towards, or similarly cannot condone this for recovery purposes. (This definition may use "tied-" as a prefix to specify)

This term aims to address the reason why someone may identify with having been, or currently being harmed. I urge individuals to think through phrases like "I feel like no one cares" to consider that one is feeling uncared for, rather than no one caring, to address the underlying need in feeling harmed.

ADDITIONAL ⦂⠀Coined on the 22nd of October, 2025. Colourpicked from the transharmful flag. Not linking that. It isn't tough to find.

TAGGING ⦂⠀@c1rcus-of-silliness @near-nia-river @radiomogai

285: identitytied, or tiedidentity

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DEFINITION 1 ⦂⠀An identity that is, for better or for worse; tied to someone, and one is learning to live with that in some way. (This definition may use "-tied" as a suffix to specify)

DEFINITION 2 ⦂⠀An identity that someone feels tied to due to struggle or circumstance, but doesn't agree with, has a negative connotation towards, or similarly cannot condone the identity for recovery purposes. (This definition may use "tied-" as a prefix to specify)

Both definitions are intended to imply the identity does, or initially had a negative connotation for the individual, but is either seen in a new light, or is recovering from.

This is intended as an alternative to transharm, which aims to recognise the reason for identifying as harmful or harmed; such as identifying as harmful for retribution reasons, and learning to address that instead of falling into harmful behaviour, though I hope the term is open-ended enough for people to explore non-harmful identities that previously had, or currently have a negative connotation. This is something that means a lot to me, and I've spent a long time trying to not only recognise the harm in transharm, as a former radqueer, but also to articulate that the identity is still held in some "good faith" ways that deserve room to exist, though not necessarily"flourish".

ADDITIONAL ⦂⠀Coined on the 22nd of October, 2025. Symbol was traced over the below knot:

TAGGING ⦂⠀@c1rcus-of-silliness @near-nia-river @radiomogai

287: harmfultied, or tiedharmful

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DEFINITION 1 ⦂⠀Someone that is, for better or for worse; tied to having been harmful, being called harmful, or whatnot, and one is learning to live with the harm done or imagined by oneself, while growing as a person. (This definition may use "-tied" as a suffix to specify)

DEFINITION 2 ⦂⠀Someone that feels tied to having been harmful, being called harmful, or whatnot due to struggle or circumstance, but doesn't agree with, has a negative connotation towards, or similarly cannot condone the harm done or imagined, for recovery purposes. (This definition may use "tied-" as a prefix to specify)

This term aims to address the reason why someone may identify with having been, or even currently being harmful. I urge individuals to think through phrases like "I wish I could get back at someone" to consider that one is feeling unresolved, and injusticed, rather than wanting to genuinely harm someone else or oneself.

ADDITIONAL ⦂⠀Coined on the 22nd of October, 2025. Colourpicked from the transharmful flag. Not linking it. It's not tough to find.

TAGGING ⦂⠀@c1rcus-of-silliness @near-nia-river @radiomogai