#third-party perspective

I have not had many success stories lately, but I have noticed that when I talk to myself from a third-party standpoint and praise myself, like a supportive friend encouraging a good friend, my self-esteem is so much higher than when I actually succeed! For example, when I didn't succeed, I would say, "XX, you did a great job! That's cool!" then my self-esteem is higher than when I succeeded. Interestingly, the speed at which self-evaluation rises is faster when one does not succeed!

If you want to boost your self-esteem, try changing the way you speak to your thoughts to third person instead of first person. I tried it myself and it made me feel like a fan talking about Hollywood stars and it really lifted my spirits. I feel like my self-esteem has improved a lot!