#theyoung

"Hwan mặt cún" cuối cùng đã tự nói với bản thân sau vô số lần do dự bỏ lỡ cơ hội tỏ tình với Duk Sung

"Duyên phận không thường xuyên tự tìm tới, nếu phải dùng 1 từ để miêu tả duyên phận thì đó nhất định là thời điểm. Nếu hôm nay tôi không bị cái đèn xanh, đèn đỏ đáng chết đó chặn lại, nếu cái đèn đỏ đó giúp tôi 1 lần, tôi có lẽ đã có thể đứng trước mặt cô ấy. Tình yêu đầu của tôi luôn bị những thời điểm đáng chết đó níu lại... nhưng đáng trách lại không phải là cái đèn xanh đèn đỏ đó, cũng không phải là thời điểm mà là vô số những lần do dự của tôi..."

Nhưng tình chỉ đẹp khi còn giang dở" là đây. Đoạn tình cảm này khó để ai xem mà dứt bỏ được, có đau khổ, có tiếc nuối, cuồng nhiệt, xót xa. Đó chính là dư vị tuổi trẻ.

Something I always struggled with when younger was getting things wrong! Especially publicly , growing up in the 80s ment mockery was brutal! However in that mockery I hardened and became very quick with a comeback. The same can be said for the mistake itself in that over time, through making mistakes I learned quickly and made less.

I often speak to my children when they make a mistake in a way that makes it ok, sometimes there is some lite banter/mockery in there too but it is talked through beforehand!

This is in stark contrast to the way I was brought up and I guess the transference of life lessons is still there, the difference is the sharp end of the spear isnt jabbed right into the situation.

What have I taken from my childhood and how is it applied is something I have been thinking about, because it seems a cultural norm nowadays to try to shield our children from making mistakes, certainly from any ridicule that might come with it and also to introduce our children to a world that tip toes around how we feel! I personally think that in doing this we are subjecting our children to a form of abuse! If I teach my children the world will be sensative to them then they are in for some very cruel and harsh truths when they go out into the world and try to carve a life out for themselves.

I work to buffer my children so to speak! I dont actively push them towards making mistakes, however there is an element of having to let them discover things for themselves. For all the dont do this and dont do that warnings I had from my peers growing up, the obvious ones like dont drink petrol are no brainers. However, theres lots I had to experience for myself in order to understand the warnings. The famous line of knowing something being knowledge but experiencing something gives you wisdom is so very true and we cannot send our children out into the world with knowledge and then not expect them to formulate that knowledge with experience to gain the wisdom required.

Telling our children they can be anything and do anything they want is not true and not right! My son will never be a king or a prince, he will also probably never be a famous basketball player as genetically there are just some people born with DNA that gives them massive advantages that he was not born with! However , being very very real and honest with him will at least set him up properly for anything he chooses to put his time and energy into. When my son said he wanted too be a writer, I asked him what he had written? When his response was he would start writing when he gets a job in writing!! I had to be brutally honest with him and tell him that if he wants something he has to put his time and energy into it and then things will flow from that. If he wanted to be a writer, he would be writing! That wasnt a deterant to stop him writing, I was just honest that if he went for a job as a writer he would be pitted against people that write about everything from the colour of the sky to the whiff of a dogs fart because that was there passion and so thats what they do, regardless. If I wanted beautiful photos taken of myself and my partner I would obviously employ someone that takes photos constantly, has invested in the right equipment as opposed to the guy that takes snaps at the weekend on his camera phone.

The education system does not help, as it works to fit you into boxes and doesnt work on teaching you genuine life skills. I personally think our children should be given free mandatory councelling after they finish school, to help them learn how to navigate themselves in the world.

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