#they project

They Project, You Redirect.

🚩 Them: "I think you're overreacting."

🏁 You: "Understood. You feel uncomfortable with intense emotions and you're unsure of how to respond."

🚩 Them: "You're too sensitive!"

🏁 You: "So, you struggle to deal with your own emotions, making you to deflect mine. Got it."

🚩 Them: "Just calm down, it's not even that serious anyway."

🏁 You: "Your perception of the situation is not a rightful reason to minimize my experience or how I feel."

🚩 Them: "You are being so dramatic!"

🏁 You: "You seem to be dismissive due to the fact that this is all too much for you to process."

🚩 Them: "People like you are so emotional!"

🏁 You: "Perhaps being taught to suppress your own emotions is causing you to view vulnerability as a weakness."

🚩 Them: "Why are you being so needy?"

🏁 You: "We should end the conversation for now because you refuse to understand emotion and vulnerability, meaning I'm not receiving the support I'm needing here."

🚩 Them: "Why can't you just move on?"

🏁 You: "I see you're not understanding the depth of my pain or why it lingers. You may avoid your own pain and problems, so I will be sure to speak with someone else on the matter."

🚩 Them: "You just want attention."

🏁 You: "If you don't know how to properly address my need for connection, that's fine, but acting judgmental is not a solution."

🚩 Them: "You just like to complain!"

🏁 You: "You've been taught to suppress struggling so it makes sense as to why you're unable to validate the challenges of others."

🚩 Them: "Stop being so negative all the time."

🏁 You: "Labeling difficult feelings as "wrong" is not an excuse to refuse to process them just because you're uncomfortable."

🚩 Them: "I never said that!" or "That is not what I said!"

🏁 You: "That's exactly what I heard you say."

🚩 Them: "You need help!"

🏁 You: "If that's true, then I also need someone who is helpful, and that's not you at all right now."

🚩 Them: "You're imagining things."

🏁 You: "I do not imagine real events or the facts they contain."

Just thought to share. Doesn't necessarily have to be in these exact words, but you get the gist of it. More thoughts later.