#therapyreflections

It is incredibly easy to get swept up in the daily rush, checking off tasks and meeting everyone else's expectations until you realize you’ve completely drifted away from your own center.

When you lose touch with what matters most to you, your nervous system can start to feel scattered, restless, or quietly burnt out.

Pausing to take an intentional inventory isn’t about judging where you are, it’s just a gentle way to help your mind and body realign.

If you are feeling a bit disconnected from your purpose today, take a slow breath and ask yourself these core questions:

🎯 What are my priorities? – Getting deeply honest about the handful of things that truly deserve your limited time and precious energy right now.

🧭 Am I moving toward them or away from them at this moment? – Looking at your current daily habits without any shame to see if they are feeding your growth or just draining your capacity.

At Life By Design Therapy™, we believe that true somatic wellness begins with these small, quiet moments of self-reconnection.

You don't have to overhaul your entire life overnight; sometimes, you just need a brief pause to check your internal compass and gently adjust your course.

If you’re located in California and you’re ready to step off the autopilot loop and build a life that feels genuinely aligned with your values, we are right here to support you.

in speaking with nina at some point in freshman year, she mentioned that her mom told her that she wouldn’t find her friends for life in her freshman year. or that she would find them. it was something that made me realize she was actively thinking about friends, so much that she’d talked about her mom with it. i was interested in that, i hadn’t thought of making friends in college at all. that has been laying dormant in the back of my brain for 6 years now.

now i am watching all these tiktoks, and a lot of them are of kids newly coming to college. i see so many worries over making friends, or happinesses over being friends with people. i’ve quickly gleaned how much of a priority it was for everyone to make friends in college. it strikes me how as i write this that that’s what the twitter friend group i could’ve made an effort to join was, it was people looking for friends.

this has all snowballed into me realizing, mid-notes on Glorious Alchemy with tired eyes, in the dark, bangs on my forehead, past-3-am when i have work tomorrow-today, and am traveling for work (meaning waking up at 7 at the latest for the next 4 days) — i never thought of making friends in college. it was not a priority, it was not even in my purview. and i realized it was because i was just so happy to be free. i was free from her finally. i didn’t think of anything or anyone else. i just finally had the luxury to be myself and discover who i was. i couldn’t be anyone until this. i couldn’t be a person. i was just starting to understand what it meant to let the light in. i missed all of that. i missed desiring for friends and i missed making friends.