#thedates

We met at a coffee shop. The date lasted 3 hours or so. I thought it had been an hour thirty tops. Sign of a good time, yes?

He is the first 'under 5'8" ' guy that I have met online that is actually the height that he stated. At a staggering 5'6", he is proudly the tallest person in his family. :)

As I said before, we have the same bizarro sense of humor. I tend to tell jokes when I am nervous (which is most of the time). He did not just laugh though, he had retorts along the same demented line. He felt really familiar to me, so the weirdness came out in endless supply. It is actually a little bit scary. ha

The conversation was good. He is very interested in how people end up in the places they've been, why they chose their career, etc...basically, what shapes people. I am so incredibly nosy to this same thing, so I obliged his questions and asked the same.

So physically... he is built a lot like (and kind of looks like, sans beard) my long time main squeeze the bear. (If you read up on him, don't forget about the voodoo shampoo... I did not say that he was smart.) That threw me off a bit.

He just seems so genuinely nice...and there is something really scary about that for me.

We did do the awkward post-date hug. Is there any way to end a date that isn't awk?

I cut Neuro off cold turkey. He asked when we were going to hang. I took some time to mull it over, then I forgot. I guess I got my answer as to how I feel about him.

I saw him right before I left for vacation. The night we were hanging out was the first time he kissed me, which I described to you all as "spastic". ...but there was more...

So, literally all we ever talk about is science. (I was starting to feel  zzzzZZZzzz about this.) ...but randomly, he will bring up his workout routine. I could give two fucks, but I thought he was trying to get us talking about something else. However, each time this has happened, he pries at me about what I do and eat in such a way that makes me feel like he wants me to lose weight. So, it came up again that last time, and he made a comment about me not losing "the girls" as he runs his hands all over them. Now I'm pissed for two reasons.

1)  One terrible 3 second kiss is not an invitation to my entire body. I had already moved his hands once.

2) He thinks I should change for him.

I sent him on his way. I think that he genuinely doesn't get it....and I genuinely do not care.

Kiss my fat ass, Neuro.

So I am meeting up with the serial killer tonight...

I want to do a pre-date analysis, as I tend to get excited about some guys, then I look back and realize that it was really unwarranted... so here goes... Pros: He is tall with dark hair. He is also a PhD candidate in Chemistry but at different university than I. He is very confident, funny, and totally off-beat. He is eager to meet me. He seems really interested in learning about both what I do and me in general. I think the conversation will be easy as we have a lot in common...we have the same alma mater which is 100's of miles from here...weird stuff like that.

Cons: I have not yet gauged the level of his confidence; I think it is bordering on arrogance, which isn't my cup of tea.  I tend to not date guys who are also crazy scientists, because I don't want to spend my off-work time talking about science (although being with someone who appreciates what I do/understands the time commitment is definitely a plus).

Mixed Feels: We are meeting for coffee instead of beer. This is both a pro and a con. It is a pro in that guys who ask me for coffee tend to be more relationship oriented, and it keeps Owlie from being a drunk idiot. However, buzzed owlie is much more relaxed than coffee-fueled jittery owlie.