I managed to come out to my mom, and. I dunno. I phrased it as "I think I might be trans, but I'm not sure yet", because… I thought it'd be easier? I guess? And now she wants to make sure I don't do something irreversible to myself if it's not actually something I want, which I understand. But it's really making things worse for me.
I don't know what I hoped would happen. It's not like she can use he/him for me now, not until I'm out to enough people for her to converse about me. But is "If you were a man, you'd be pretty bad at being a man" really that helpful? Or making me self conscious about my emotional support necklaces? Which I need?
I'm making her out to be really evil and whatnot, but she really isn't. She knows I have mental health problems, and thinks they might be the reason for all this. And I can't tell her it's the other way around, because that would mean telling her I lied.
I don't really have a neat way to conclude this, so uh… statement ends.
It might just be better to tell her you weren’t entirely honest with her. If she’s really as caring as you say, then she’ll understand when you explain why you were untruthful. Especially since she seems to understand how difficult it is for genderqueer people, given how worried she is now.
(Do not pile onto this person’s mother- give people the benefit of the doubt on 1,155 days left)