I bid you all a very fond farewell -
It’s been a long time since I’ve written a proper text post, so I’ll try to keep this simple.
I’ve been on Tumblr for many years now. What started as curiosity slowly became community. Over time, this space gave me more than a dashboard to scroll. It gave me conversations that lingered, shared laughter (and little more) in late-night messages, and people who moved from usernames to real-life friends. For that, I’ll always be grateful.
Like all things, though, seasons change. And so do we.
Somewhere along the way, I began to change in ways I didn’t fully recognize at first. My needs shifted. My boundaries evolved. What once felt expansive and exciting gradually became harder to hold. My desire to connect (something that was always rooted in belonging and building meaningful, sex-positive friendships) grew into something more urgent, less sustainable. In trying to stay open, I lost sight of my own limits. And in that blur, I hurt people I genuinely cared about.
That realization has been sobering.
In the past few weeks I have had to rediscover myself and learn how to navigate this time in my life as I slowly transition away from my usual dynamics.
For that reason I made the decision to log out indefinitely.
I need time to heal, and learn again what it is that makes me feel joy and fulfillment in the way I connect with people, especially through kink and sexuality. I need to redefine and draw new lines around the place I inhabit.
I don’t know if I’ll come back. But I didn’t want to disappear without saying thank you. Thank you to the people who welcomed me, challenged me, shared pieces of themselves, and trusted me with their stories. You’ve shaped me more than you know.
For now, I’m closing myself off to anything beyond platonic and non-sexual connection. If any of my moots would like to stay in touch, you’re welcome to DM me for my Discord or other socials.
I still believe in sex-positivity. I still believe in the power of erotic connection when it’s rooted in consent, curiosity, and care. Those values haven’t changed. If anything, this pause is about learning how to live them more honestly.
Thank you for the lessons, the warmth, and the years we shared in this strange and beautiful corner of the internet.
Be true to yourselves. Respect your boundaries. Stay curious. Stay kind. Stay kinky.
-that regular dude.
