yqy getting selective memory loss bc (insert reason here) but he doesn't remember that sj is mad at him or that their relationship is awful now or the guilt that he has about the whole thing so he just starts treating sj like how he remembers, scolding him and managing him and pacifying him in ways that tend to be childish and patronizing bc that's his only frame of reference for how to interact with sj (though it shifts and develops quickly as yqy re-establishes his relationship with sj) and it's so shocking to him at first that it starts working just from the sheer audacity of it. so much affection freely given, without that politely distant affect yqy tended to put on, and yqy doesn't stop when he snaps at him. It's how he remembers yqy's care and it hurts and he's greedy for more and he feels like when yqy remembers he'll remember how much better it was without him and how much he made things worse by being there. the vaguely paternal vibe makes everyone confused and what amounts to accidental love bombing leaves sj feeling and acting unmoored and a bit shy which is even more confusing to watch.
