#tc16

Hello! (Sorry for going over word count! Here is shorter version:)

last time I messaged you, I was 16 almost 17. I am 18, 19 in June. I messaged about SH but now I’m glad to say Im a year clean! Never talked to The guy I liked.. But as long as he’s happy it’s ok. I messaged about loving pop punk… Now I’m into Elvis Presley, 50s and 60s songs, and Michael Jackson. (this is great because these songs are happy whereas the old songs I listened to, whilst I liked them, I think made me sadder.)

I messaged saying that I wasn’t interesting, I still think that, which I am dealing with, but now I have been learning Spanish (which I might give up), been drawing portraits (which are turning out pretty good), gonna draw more nature and animals soon, and continue playing piano (been playing since Age 14) Do you have any tips to make a person more interesting?

Still have no idea what I want to do with my life. I messaged saying this when I was in grade 12. I graduated in November 2015 and haven’t gotten a job or studied anything because Idk what to study. I literally wasted whole of 2016 doing nothing.. Was on my laptop ALL day everyday because the only friend I had left was always at school or work. This makes me so angry with myself.. I wasted a whole year (and so far of 2017).. it gives me so much anxiety, I’ve wasted the best years of my life. (Because of how bad I was mentally in school, was ALWAYS on my laptop if not at school). My laptop broke December last year bc I dropped it, idk if it’s bad to say, but I’m glad bc now less time wasted.

only thing is… I still have my phone, which now replaces laptop. I don’t waste as much time bc deleted all my social media and I used to sit on YouTube most of the time on laptop, but now I hardly go on YouTube (I still do waste a little time but no where near as much) unless it’s for useful things like music or tutorials. But I do think I can do without my phone. I wish I could give up my phone but I need it to talk to people for things like work (when I get a job), getting pictures to draw, learning Spanish and learning piano songs. Anyway back to the job thing..

my mum is gonna help me do a resume, I have two places where I would like to work, once my resume is done I need to gain the courage and strength to hand them in. I hope I can! Because it’s stressing me out soooo much. can hardly sleep because of it and have so much anxiety, I feel like because no job and no studies, no supporting friends, wasted my teenage years, etc, I feel like I’m ruining my life badly.

reason I have no ‘supporting’ friends is because atm I only have two (rest moved away or stopped taking to me) but one’s moving to a different country soon, and the other isn’t someone I can be around alot because sometimes I feel as though she is fake towards me and using me, and sometimes her personality just doesn’t agree with mine (if that makes sense?)

Also I’ve never had a relationship, I’m really stressing because Ive never even really had a conversation with a guy (was scared of them in school because of a few who used to bully me) and am still kinda scared to talk to them. I’m honestly scared that no one will like me. What can I do? I’m different to alot of people as an effect of what I’ve been through, which adds to my worry that no guys will like me.

thank you sooooo much for replying to me and other people in the past and future!! I really do appreciate it and am grateful for all the times you replied to me in the past!! I truly hope you are all doing okay!!

Hey there, Tc16. Thanks so much for sending in a submission! I am glad that you have been clean from self harm and coping pretty well. You are very welcome for everything. We are happy to help you in everything and try our best in our replies.

I am very glad that you are doing well. I like your taste in music as well. I like pop-punk but agree that it can sometimes be sad. Your new taste is very nice. Also, you will find someone who loves you so it’s okay!

If you are curious as to how to be more interesting, I think it really depends on a few things. I think we are each individual beings who are all interesting. Every person is so unique and interesting. But if you don’t feel interesting, then maybe try to engage more in the things that you do. Take more classes, read more, talk with others, and learn everything that you can. Knowledge makes for a very interesting person.

It is alright that you do not know what you want to do with your life. You need time to decide what you want to do because you are going to be doing it for a long time. I would suggest seeing a therapist to talk about possible career options. They could guide you in the right path of options.

It is great that you are starting to write a resume. That will be good for school and work.  It’s also great that you have found some places that you are interested in working. I know you can do it! A job will give you a sense of accomplishment and will give you something to do, plus you make money!

If you get a job there is a possibility of making friends. Just try to talk to people and find out what they are like. You don’t need that many friends, just a few is good enough. I know that you can do it! And with relationships with guys, just act like yourself and try to calm down is what I say. Take everything slow and enjoy it. Try to talk to people ad be friends first. That will make things a lot more comfortable for you. I believe that guys will like you.

Again, thanks for sending in your submission. You’re so welcome and thanks for coming back to mental health advice! I know that you can get through this! Remember that we have a live chat service that is available to everyone. You can send in a request or see if an admin has posted that they are online. If you feel like you are in immediate danger please go to the hospital. I want you to be safe.

I wish you luck!

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-Rachel