#taurielkill

that’s amazing that it worked out that way. communication is super important yep yep just ask any fanfic writers

Submitted by: taurielkill

Hi, I recently discovered myself as demisexual and I believe the best way that I understood it was a specific “turn-on.” So, the general overall definition of demisexuality is a person that doesn’t feel sexual attraction until they get to emotionally connect to another person. Now, that could potentially be similar to a lot of people. However, a more specific definition is that a person doesn’t get turned on by another person because of their outer beauty or looks. For me specifically, this means I can find people aesthetically pretty, however, this only creates a desire for me to want to get to know them and possibly go on a date with them or something equally non-sexual. I don’t get the feeling of “I’d bang that.” What turns me on is our emotional bond, our trust. 

I think people are pretty, and I want to get to know them.

This isn’t me being chivalrous or prude. This is completely different because I never feel a sexual desire I need to repress, for me there is no sexual desire at all. There might be romantic desire, which is under a different category, but there’s no inherent sexual desires.

This is different from me being chivalrous or prude, because there’s nothing sexually I feel originally. i.e. Kissing is weird until I’m emotionally close to them. 

(Side note: sexuality is not the same as a person’s romantic desires nor their gender preferences)

I would also like to bring to the attention the differences in sexual attraction and sex drive. They are not the same thing. They are not the same thing. I could be super horny and masturbate or watch porn. However, I can’t imagine myself doing it with another person or if I try it kills my mood. However, it is different for all demisexuals. We don’t all like the idea of sex, we don’t all watch porn, we don’t all masturbate. Sometimes we might even consider ourselves asexual until we find the right person.

hahaha i don't really know how this even started omg