#tapas forum

Summary: There was a person constantly annoying me on my Tumblr ask about past interactions we had on this forum, from where I told them I did not wish to interact with them anymore and called out all of their fucked up, disrespectful, entitled behavior that over and over ignored my boundaries.

To the point they continued to approafch me me even outside this platform, ignoring once again my boundaries. Trying to victimize themselves, financially bribe me, gaslight me and continue to stalk me and once again, disrespect my boundaries after being blocked twice.

At this point I believe some of you may realize who this person, and if you are not sure yet, here is a hint:

This person has been provided advice by several people, for writing, drawing and making comics here. This person is a black hole, nothing is enough, dragged others through endless rabbit holes of questions and excuses, bluffing about doing something but later confessing they didn't do nor try anything they said, several requested them to show proof of all that time invested in them not ending nowhere, and alas, this person always had excuses once again of not being able to do anything, not having the time, not being able to focus, but surely focus all their energy on replying lengthy posts and create several more excusing themselves.

You guessed right, Josh Raed / Chosenwads / ResistEverything continued with his obsessive behavior and even more now continuing to cross the line and keep bothering me even when I'm barely in the Tapas Forum anymore.

You don’t understand anything if despite being told to stop interacting; that I’m ignoring you. You keep inserting yourself onto other people’s lives and disrespecting their boundaries, especially on other social media

If you are not familiar with Josh Raed / Chosenwads / ResistEverything, let me tell you: This person made several Topics and Threads in the Tapas Forum, at the point of being considered Spam and being warned by the Mods to tune it down and to stop bothering others’s boundaries several times, he also went to people’s DMs as shown above. (There is no blocking feature) and only when called out he backtracks and pretends to act misunderstood when his intentions and tone were very clear in the beginning.

No kidding, just check the dates the threads were created to see Clinically online behavior

Josh was told by me I did not like him one bit, I don’t like the way he treat others, I don’t like how he demands and demands but none of us saw anything coming out of him, no nothing, just more and more questions and demanding our time and patience, some answers that only could be given to him by just trying instead of typing and being clinically online in here,Josh even admited waking up and just getting into the forum first thing in the morning, clearly having a forum addiction, and presenting traits of attention seeking behavior. Many people are neurodivergent as well, including me, so many have tried to help him in his creative endeavours through neurodivergent, amateurs, novice friendly approaches but even the advice given by fellow neurodivergents, professionals, actual art teachers and even with different resources and approaches wasn’t enough for him.

I simply called him out over these repetitive patterns once I got fed up, and how he never seem to be doing anything except lengty threads after threads there, with questions that he already asked and others have answered or that he could answer himself instead of making us tango for a whole morning, and even how he was persistent and demanding via DMs, he sure didn’t had time nor could write a lot for his own story, but sure was quick to write a Bible defending himself and making yet even more threads in the forum. Others have called him out as well, especially when he says he practices yet doesn't show anything, and how he constantly contradicts himself and tries to deny things until he has his own comments screenshoted at his face, even when others tell him he makes them feel frustrated over not seing him at least trying, not improvement, just trying, show don't tell. Even to the point that when others began to ignore him, he began to make threads about no one answering him anything, eventually I stopped filtering my words and just being blunt, no gentle, no surgacoated, no harsh, no honest wording was enough for him back in 2023, but surely he went out of his way to grab everything I said and answer bit by bit, even after I told him I don't care about his explanations or excuses, because to me that's what he does if he invest his time more in the forum than actually drawing or wrinting, he is online what he shows, doesn't show what he is truly doing, he shouldn't be surprised others assume he is doing nothing when he does anything except what he says he is doing.

On July 2024 I set my boundaries about not wanting anything to do with Josh / resisteverything / chosenwads. Which he completely continued to ignore and even continued to attempt contact after several times telling him to stop.

Groundhog Day over and over

After calling him out, I simply began to ignore him and be less and less present in said Forum (Despite work and being busy), because honestly, I had no patience for him nor wanted him approaching me anymore after he did so on both my Tumblr and Ko-Fi.

At first I didn’t notice who he was in Tumblr, as he changed his username and overall apperance of his blog. But in Ko-Fi, despite I’ve expressed how much I don’t like this person, they commission me? Weird behavior, and invasive of my boundaries. I debated if to do a refund or just do the commission, it was just $5 Dollars for a Surprise, no revision type of commission. You give me the references, I work with that, your references aren’t clear? Well, beggars can’t be choosers.

First one was the reference, only indication was to make the sleeves thorn and give the character long pants. No other instructions, nor prompts. Secon one is what I ended up doing and interpreted even with insufficient information, sleeves falling because of gravity and pose and facial expression I had to come up myself as those aspects weren’t filled nor mentioned by Josh, changed the pants as requested and even delivered within the stated Turn Around Time. Instructions and Terms are stated at the beginning of making the order, so at no point this person who loves to ignore what others tell him wasn’t informed about how to make it and what was required in the first place, or that stuff that wasn't clarified will be interpreted. But Josh is known for not reading and not following instructions and don't give a flying fuck about anything except himself, so of course after a whole year of making that commission he dares now to complain after being pissed I don't fall for his victimism and excuses of him not being misunderstood, no, that's what pricks say when others don't fall for their shit.

Now I know I should have done the refund and block him on Tumblr before doing so on Ko-Fi, but surely, after doing the commission and seeing him continue bothering me and messaging me I decided to block him there, I wasn't unable to block him on Tumblr as I have deleted his asks as he changed his name in Tumblr from chosenwads to resisteverything.

Eventually, when he made that post in the Tapas forum about others not interacting much with him or having threads with no answers, some just snapped and began to talk about their negative experiences especially to those that weren’t aware of the dynamic that has been repeating since the beginning of 2023, including me. I addressed and left explicitly stated in there my wishes, not wanting to be contacted again, not want to exchange anything with this person again, don’t want to deal with his manipulation, lies, victimization, gaslighting, twisting the narrative nor whatever new excuse he made everytime someone calls him out and decides to backtrack to attempt to change the very clear intentions he originally had (Screenshot of my post I shared way above)

As I checked out Tumblr, now knowing his usernames, is clear that around the same time I blocked him on Ko-Fi, he changed it to resisteverything. And from what I’ve seen, even in there, other people has blocked him as well or started ignoring him, don't care it is from 2024 if he's been sending me several asks this year, his behavior continuing as obsessive and repetitive as ever, he can try to write and type as much as he wants but his actions speak louder.

All of this is JUST from Tumblr interactions I’ve found, and some of the members at the Tapas Forum knows how WORSE it used to be back in 2023, not really that hard to know considering what just literally pops on his user profile.

And from what I was told, despite I blocked him, he is now stalking my Tumblr blog, took screenshots and repeated the same pattern he did back in that thread from July 2024. I already told him as much back then. So many have told him as much as well.

Because every now and then he has been making asks on my blog, sometimes anonymously and other times with his resisteverything account, it was only when I reblogged a lighthearted thread about autism and misunderstandings that finally, the sir puts enough information on his cryptic DMs as I don't have a crystal ball to know who he is.

Josh, you weren’t misunderstood, you acted like an asshole, like a creep, overstep my boundaries over and over again, and went to the point of stalking me. So no, you are not being misunderstood, you are a selfish, entitled, persistent man-child

if you keep doing whatever you want instead of listening and processing what others are telling you, you are selfish and entitled, you can’t excuse this in autism or neurodivergency because almost everyone that interacted with you is on the spectrum as well, you disregard other people’s feelings and requests, yet you complain when others get done of your shit and pay you with the same coin.

I have no expectations from you, Josh, I don't want anything to do with you, so stop deluding yourself in the idea that you need to bitch to me or try to show me stuff I'm not interested into, respect is the common ground, you earned my disrespect and desire to avoid you, so stop coming at me, stop interacting with me, stop trying to approach me, stop stalking my blog even after I blocked you, stop having me in your head because until that last ask you sent, you weren't in mine. I don't want absolutely anything from you, not even money, money that even belongs to your mother.

You are not being misunderstood, you disregard others, you ignore what is being told to you, you have no social boundaries nor accountability, you don't care about limits, you don't respect them, you invade other people's personal spaces, you continue to attempt to insert into other people's lives even after being blocked, you try to bribe others to do what you want, you are entitlement at its finest if not selfishness.

I don’t want to interact with you = That means even outside the Tapas Forum I don’t want to have anything to do with you = That means you can’t convince me otherwise with money, flattering words that look shallow after everything you've done or invading my personal space Stop Approaching me = That means leaving me alone, no stalking me, no making side accounts, no following me on my other social media, no answering nor making blogs about me, you don't have any right to request anything from me after over and over disregarding and ignoring others and continue to impose your childish tantrums. I block you = I don’t want you to see what I make, I want you to leave me alone. All of the above