#tandd

Here’s my wedding preparations update so far. I have, or more like my parents, have put in the first deposit for food and decor. Decor wise, I have chosen the colours and pretty much the design. I am reaaaaally early in terms of decor but well, if that works for the vendor then it’s fine with me. The other preparations like gubahan and berkat will be done by them as well so it’s not so stressful on my part. I am just left with designing the card for the vendor to help print it out. I am trying not to think about the issue with the bridal since I have yet to liaise  with them again. On another note, the otter and I will be shopping for cloth after raya and by then, I should have an idea what I want to wear for my solemnization. 

i think i have not updated on my meeting with the third bridal on my list. so last week we went to meet her and discussed the package prices and how the whole process will be like. basically we left unconvinced and frustrated (this one more like me ah) because the price was way out of our budget. at that time i was just so done and nak give up. of course at the back of my mind still stress because eventually have to get a bridal. i was already considering to find cloth and tailor for all three days and just get a makeup artist. of course that will mean i have to get the accessories for hair so that is also another headache. thankfully my dear otter decided to let me go to the nearby cat cafe to make me happy for a bit and take my mind off the stress hehehe. 

anyway, i took a break from researching and along the way, my mom asked me to look up for this bridal which my d & c (decor & catering for easier typing purpose) vendor mentioned before. so i thought why not right since my options for bridal has run out.

it was quite difficult to find pictures of this bridal and the reviews are barely there on the internet. so of course, i was quite cautious. the reviews that were there however were positive and the collection that they have is not bad so i thought what the hell just try and set appointment. 

i had a medical appointment today and so i decided to slot in a an appointment with them in the evening. i intended to slot in an appointment with another bridal as well as both bridals were located in the same area but after talking on the phone, i decided that this particular was bridal was way out of my budget especially since we will have long hours. they were supposed to call me back to check if they had a slot but they didn’t so i guess it was a sign? 

anyway, otter took leave today as well to accompany me and to discuss about our future with the doctor because of my medical issues. we came earlier than our slotted time and one of the makeup artist discussed with us about the rough itinerary for the nikah and wedding days, showed us their catalogues for gowns and traditional outfits which was to my liking! they were simple yet striking but not to the point of over the top. then we discussed the important issue of price and it was slightly above our budget but not about much considering the number of hours. plus, they didn’t go by hours so the MUA will be there for as long as we want. this was the most important because it was what most bridal packages were based on. basically it fitted what we want without us having to fork out so much. at first i thought i wanted to go back and discuss. when we asked if they had a slot for our date, they said they only had 1 left. i don’t know if this is a marketing strategy but it definitely had a huge influence on me. also because another couple came in like half an hour after us and i was scared they would take that slot so dengan secepatnya i agreed to book the slot. 

so we finally met the vendor i have been looking forward to meet. she shared her vision, a few collection and discussed over the package prices. we pretty much share the the same sentiments over the kind of clothes we want to have and the price was right for our budget. the difficult part is to figure out the design that i want because i cannot envision myself in something that is original or my own, yet still be elegant. i guess that is part of the downside too. with the lack of collection at the moment, it is difficult for me to decide. i discussed this with a friend and she suggested that i rent the clothes from somewhere else but get her make up services instead since there is also the risks that comes with being a new bridal. i trust her perfectly fine but judging from how i am not able to figure out designs for myself, i might as well opt for an established vendor with existing collections. tinggal tengok and pilih jer.

some other negative things also happened before and during the meeting. but Alhamdulillah, otter and I have discussed it over and move on. i was pretty frustrated during the course of trying to find a suitable bridal because i am the sort that i need someone to assure me that this is good instead of leaving the decision to me. unless of course i feel pretty damn confident about it or it probably could be some impulsive buys while shopping. i guess it is because i want the other party to feel happy about it too.

another one more vendor next week to meet, discuss and look through their collection. although i did send out messages to 2 bridal vendors this week asking for quotations. hehehe at this rate i think i jahit baju sendiri sudah.

i am also going to meet the decor and catering vendors this saturday. so for that, i need to start planning the theme, colours and whatever else. i don’t mind choosing my own design but i know for sure my parents will say stuff like aper ni macam orang putih nyer design or amek lah design yang melayu sikit. sigh your wedding is really not your wedding.