#talktothem

I’ll start by saying, parenting doesn’t come with a handbook, or a user manual. I wish it did. Or some type of book that prepares you for the worst that can can happen. The question is, what is the worst that can happen? Drugs? Alcohol? Sex? I think all of them.

This past week I heard a rumor on the block, that Sarah had obtained an e-cigarette. My first reaction was, “absolutely not! My daughter would NEVER do such a thing! But wait...where did she get it?!” Rumor had it, an adult on the block bought it. I knew I needed to talk to Sarah before jumping to conclusions. I spoke to Sarah and surprisingly, she was upfront and extremely honest with me. She stated that she gave the adult the money, the adult bought it for her, and she tried it. She stated that she tried it and didn’t like it at all. I believed her. She also stated that she did not have the device in her possession. I believed her. I was shocked, but then again I wasn’t. Research shows, that over 8.7% of 8th graders have a vape and use them regularly. Over 29.6% of 9th graders have a vape and regularly use them. It looks like a USB port in which are easy to disguise.

Steve and I decided against punishing Sarah because she told the truth. Some may think we’re crazy. Some think we’re insane. Some may think it shows that we’re irresponsible. I think it was the right thing to do because, next time we go through this, she’ll know to tell the truth as soon as we ask to avoid punishment.

Parents, don’t be like me. Don’t assume that your child doesn’t get caught up in peer pressure. Don’t assume your child will automatically say no. Talk to them about the dangers of all things. Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, and even vapes. Break the “seal” now before it’s too late.