hii cas! You're a moot of one of my irl friends, and I was just scrollin' around and found that you got a few asks about relationship advice! please help. So theres this guy i like, and he asked me out. its a good thing, right? But here's the catch (I sound like a fucking detective or smth sorry hahah) he compliments me, and is sweet most of the time, but he does get anxiety/panic attacks sometimes. Once he messaged me apologizing about not really talking to me much in school, and i honestly feel kinda bad cuz I feel like i'm the one not talking to him. Do you know any ways I can make him feel less pressured (My friends spam him telling him to talk to me which probably doesn't help) ? And it would be great if you could drop me some tips on talking to other people (I have zero social skills oh my god). Tysm! PS. Your writing is beautiful, I never really shipped Jegulus that hard, but now I would kill for them 🥨✨
Hi!
Honestly, I find the best thing to help anxiety is clear communication. I would just send a message that says, "Hey! I know my friends are pressuring you to talk to me a lot, and I want you to know that I don't want you to feel pressured. It makes me happy when you talk to me, but I know this is new, so I don't want you to feel like you have to push yourself."
This way he knows he isn't pressure and he also knows this isn't you saying don't talk to him.
As far as talking to people IRL? God, I'm am NOT the person to ask, I am so awkward. I mean, as a rule of thumb, people like talking about themselves. Asking them about their likes, dislikes, opinions, etc, is always a good way to make conversation.
And AWWW I'm glad you like my babies!
I'm going to name you talking anon in case you want to write again!
