Not sure who this will reach if anyone. But. Here's goes:
Have any other alters/headmates/etc formed a parental bond with someone as a syskid and then after aging up as an alter still seen that someone as a parent? Even if ages are too close for that to make sense???? What did you do in that situation? (Just keep the label? Move on? Shift to a friendship? Etc?)
For context, I'm Lily and when we discovered the system and I revealed myself i was 8. I was 8 maybe a year or two after, and during that time I began to see out now fiancé. He is a singlet and now in his mid 20s. I have since aged up to be 18, though for a while I would ageslide back and forth. (Its possible I still ageslide and just havent in a while). I still seen our fiancé as my dad. With my in system dad it's one thing because he's like an ancient/immortal being or whatever. But its just. Confusing. Idk what to do beyond asking him what hes comfortable with.
To be clear: the point of this post is to ask for advice, not judgement.