One thing we need to talk more about
Is the narcissistic abuse that happens in the black community. The fact that many black mothers have a hard time nurturing their daughters and saying simple things like "I love you" and refusing to praise their children is not a coincidence. You hear so many stories or black mothers catering to sons and being jealous of their daughters and treating them like the step child by doing things like, checking if they are a virgin, purposely putting them in ugly clothes or clothes that don't fit them to make them feel ugly, or purposely making fun of them whether it's their weight or hair or lack of academic performance and blame them for it as if it is their fault! We have black mothers guilty of infantilization by not properly teaching their daughters how to take care of themselves so they can continue to manipulate and abuse them. So many black parents do this in our community and we think it's normal because our community itself has been dysfunctional, we are used to it. So much abuse has goes on our families that is covert because no one talks about it, unless someone is physically hurting you then it's looked at as normal, and even when that happens it's overlooked sometimes because we are taught to "stick together" or "we go through so much already" and I'm tired of it. We need to speak up more about the emotional and mental abuse that goes on in our community and stop covering it up with "this is my family they did so much for me", sis, parents are supposed to take care of you, that is their job, if they didn't want to partake they should've went a different rout. Repost: Cuz y'all black and poc Social Work majors gotta know also (and apparently you can only use 30 tags..who knew)
