TW: SA, DV As a survivour of abùsè (s*xual aśśuIts and domestic vìoIenće), (Sorry - I have to censor it, because insta doesn't like me) @tamepunk's words couldn't be more true. The cycle survives and thrives on others being quiet - the victims and onlookers. Many can't speak out or react in ways that they'd like to, at the time, for fear for their safety - but if you can speak up and feel ready to & feel safe enough to do so - I encourage you to. I had to fake smile, be submissive, make myself small & walk on eggshells for 20 years so my abùser wouldn't get even more aggressive with/at me. I have cut ties and just like Grace refusing to forgive Scott Morrison for not keeping his word, for defending & protecting abùśerś - I refuse to forgive mine. I don't have to forgive in order to move on & to live a happy life (FINALLY! I'm finally happy & free to be myself). Thank you, @tamepunk for staying true to yourself, your values & for continuing to stand up for survivours. This is why you were our #AustralianOnTheYear and those critising your actions are showing their privilege & outing themselves of not knowing why you were chosen in the first place. Never change, Grace - you're a national treasure and an inspiration. [ID in alt text] Posted with @DittoRepost #dittorepost • @the.australian Grace Tame has defended her right not to smile, after her controversial meeting with the Prime Minister last week.⁠ ⁠ #GraceTame #Australia ⁠#Survivours #VixenNotAVictim https://www.instagram.com/p/CZfrRhjPD0d/?utm_medium=tumblr

This is the last day of RED MY LIPS month. I wore red lipstick everyday of this April to show support for surviours of sexual violence or abuse and raise awareness about how harmful myths and ill attitudes prevelent in society can be. ● Sexual violence or abuse is NEVER EVER a victims fault. ● Sexual violence is about power and domination NOT desire. ●And NO ALWAYS MEANS NO. Wearing red lipstick or displaying red lips in some way for RED MY LIPS month is a great way to show support for survivours of sexual violence and speak out against victim blaming. A little effort can go a long way towards change. Thanks to everyone for your support and kind words. It really means a lot to see that the messege is getting out there. If you want to get involved next year check out redmylips.org for details. #day30 #redmylips2016  #redmylips #april #redlips #speakout #victimblaming #violence #rapemyths #greatcause #support #survivours #awareness #notforprofit #makeadifference #wordshavepower #redlipstick Lip products: Jeffree Star velour liquid lipstick in Redrum #jeffreestarcosmetics #velourliquidlipstick #redrum #lovethislipstick

Day 23 of RED MY LIPS month. I saw Zootopia today. It was a really excellent flick for so many reasons. For one thing, it looked at the damage that preconcieved notions and thoughtless words can do. But it also looks at how change is possible and that it starts with each of us. Gotta love a good ol' Disney movie with adoreable fuzzy animals and a sweet moral to the story. 😉 I was hesitant because of the hype but if you get the chance, do go see it. You won't regret it. #redmylips2016  #redmylips #april #redlips #speakout #victimblaming #violence #rapemyths #greatcause #support #survivours #awareness #notforprofit #makeadifference #wordshavepower #day23 #zootopia #movierecommendation #disney #moralofthestory Lip products: Bright red lip liner & Napoleon Perdis Devine Goddess lipstick in ANNA. #napoleonperdis #devinegoddesslipsticks #redlipstick #favlipstick

Yesterday was day 12 of RED MY LIPS month but I didn't get a chance to post this. So this was me yesterday, before I got my hair cut. I got to mention RED MY LIPS to my hairdresser and was glad to hear they already knew about it. The day before my doc knew of it too. So the messege IS getting out there! Yay! #redmylips2016  #redmylips #april #redlips #speakout #victimblaming #violence #rapemyths #greatcause #support #survivours #awareness #notforprofit #makeadifference #wordshavepower #day12 Lip products: Bright red lipliner & MAC's Cremesheen lipstick in Dare You. #lovethislipstick #maccosmetics #maclipstick #cremesheen #dareyou

Day 9 of RED MY LIPS month. Last night I watched an old episode of BONES (season 8) which really exemplified one of the many reasons I support the Red My Lips campagin. It showed how rape myths and victim blaming can make survivors fear speaking out. Words have power; for good or ill. Speaking out against these attitudes and myths could change the course of someone's life for the better. #redmylips2016  #redmylips #april #day9 #redlips #speakout #victimblaming #violence #rapemyths #greatcause #support #survivours #awareness #notforprofit #makeadifference #bonesseason8 Lips: bright red lipliner & NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in Monte Carlo (10) #redlipliner #nyx #softmattelipcream #smlc10 #nyxmontecarlo

Its day 7 of RED MY LIPS month and even though I am just at home, I put on red lipstick as a show of support and commitment to this great campaign. I don't want to bombard everyone with images of my face so I will only post a pic every other day but I will be wearing red lipstick EVERY day this month. Its not about vanity, its about visibility. #redmylips2016 #redmylips #april #redlips #speakout #victimblaming #violence #rapemyths #greatcause #support #survivours #awareness #notforprofit #makeadifference #day7 Lip products used: Napoleon Perdis lipliner in Plum Role & Burt's Bees lip crayon in Napa Vineyard (435) #napoleonperdis #lipliner #burtsbees #lipstick #nappavineyard