what advice do you have for a girl who is terrified to have sex when she falls into subspace too easily? i apologize if this is out of your league
I love questions like this actually. Thank you for asking.
I would advise talking to her partner about the scene. I know there's this idea that sex should be spontaneous and flow without comment, but when you have one person who is either very uncomfortable or awkward or, like in this case, can get lost in the scene far too easily, it's incredibly important to talk about the boundaries of play before playing.
She should find a partner she really trusts, talk a lot about what she wants the scene to look like and make sure the partner is on board and then test the waters. The thing about being a person who falls into subspace easily is that you need a partner who can navigate that, otherwise it might get a little uncomfortable. The dominate partner can never be sure if theyre taking things too far until after the scene is over and aftercare is had.
So, I would also recommend to the very subby girl to make sure she's praising her partners after for all their hard work so they don't start to feel guilty for sending her into deep subspace.
I hope this was helpful! Feel free to ask more anytime!
