#stopsexualharassment

(Part 2)

That walk towards the parking lot felt like there’s a ticking time bomb in her head - until they finally reached the car.

“When is Aunt coming?” 00:15

“Oh, she sent me a text…” 00:12

“..she said that she’s still having trouble shopping.” 00:10

“She will just wait for me here..” 00:05

“..to return from my errand.” 00:03

RUN. LEAVE NOW. RUN. RUN. PLEASE! PLEASE!!!!

But she didn’t.

She trusted him up to that point. 00:01

Until she froze again like the heavy traffic outside the car. 00:00

She wanted to break loose from that seat belt and from his touches. She tried her best to lean and look away. She wanted to clearly show him that she doesn’t want what is happening.

For once, she wanted to fight back and run at the same time.

She wanted to open that car door with all her strength and being.

She wanted to escape the car and from his lustful eyes.

For once, she wanted to scream and shout for help. This time, not just in her mind.

She wanted to get out. She doesn’t care anymore if a car hits her.

She would rather die.

But she didn’t.

Until now, she didn’t know why. All she remembers were the questions in her mind. What can she possibly do now? Does she have any choice? It was all her fault, right?

The moment she got off that car, she made a decision never to trust him again; that what just happened won’t happen again. “Isaksak niya sa baga niya yung pasta at kotse niya!!!” That’s what’s screaming in her mind but why is she crying? Why are these tears falling?

No. She can’t cry now. No one should know about what happened.

And that was what she hoped.

A week after, she went home and was greeted by her mother’s furious face. What’s on her mom's hands almost gave her a heart attack.

They were two framed photos of her, eating pasta.

“What are these!? Why did your uncle sent these!? Did you meet him?”

“I told you to stay away from him!!”

“Are you really that foolish? Come on, you should be wise! You should not trust people easily! So what do you think happens now, huh? You really want to ruin my relationship with your aunt??”

“You are so stupid! Don’t dare tell anything about this to your dad.”

Then that’s when she ran and tried grabbing the frames from her mom’s hands. She's going hysterical. She wanted to smash them with her bare hands and use the broken glasses to slash herself but her mom’s grip was too tight. She felt she’s going crazy with so much anger inside her. She hates her uncle. She hates her mom. She hates herself. She hates everyone.

She slumped on the floor. Bawling. Screaming. Hitting the floor with her bare hands. Maybe somehow the pain can go away with every hit.

Would things be different if she didn’t go with her mom to do the laundry at her aunt’s house 10 years ago? …if she was not alone in that living room? …if people did not lose sight of her at her grandparents’ house? …if her 10-year old self realized that something wrong happened and asked for help? ...if she felt that someone cares for her? …if someone reached out and helped her realize that she was sexually abused and that she needed help? …if someone supported her and strongly advised her that going near the abuser again is dangerous? …if someone helped her realize that it’s more important to protect herself first rather than others?

Her tears falling but her eyes blankly staring on the floor.

Guys, it's only a month into 2019 and we have another sick jerk on the go :"(

Ateen were filled with young boys that dream big, and they desserve the best, not being sexually assaulted like this..

Maybe there isn't much way to help them but for now please spread the hashtag #JusticeForATEEN #WeSupportATEEN or any hashtag for them that you can bring on..

And let's pray the best for them.. I hope justice will play the best.

We should SPEAK!

S - Speak up, Step up and Stand up.

P - Protect our PIONEERS

E - End victim blaming

A - Awareness

K - Know your LIMITATIONS

What is Sexual harassment? Sexual Harassment is an unwelcome or unnecessary thing you've been doing to some people who can't speak up for their selves.

Why some of the people get harassed, do not stand themselves self, and fight for justice? Some of us have a different perspective in life, some of us can move on easily and some are not. Some of them can stand by their faith and some of them are staying silent and don't want to talk about what happened to them.

Nowadays, It's not only adults getting harassed, even kids. In this kind of generation, we people don't need to speak out about all the things that got happened to you, some of them are afraid and getting depressed by remembering what happened to them. It's not easy when u feel sexual harassment by someone, At this age, we kids need to enjoy and fulfill your dreams and chase it for your future. No right can stop people speaking out all the things they want to share and give everyone a lesson that, Being harrassed is one of the main problems that everyone's feelings when you get harassed, don't hesitate to call for help and say something, stand up for yourself and keep fighting.

"The initial trauma of a young child may go underground but it will return to haunt us" - James Garbarino

source: google and pinterest for the picture

“I DON’T WORK FOR FREE, STOP USING ME”. IT’S SLAVERY. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

“STOP BUYING AND SELLING ME”. IT’S HUMAN TRAFFICKING. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP SAYING AND THINKING YOU OWN WOMEN, MOTHERS AND UNDERAGE GIRLS. IT’S HUMAN TRAFFICKING. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

WE ARE NOT YOUR SLAVES, STOP USING US. IT’S INVOLUNTARY SERVITUDE. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP STALKING US, FOLLOWING US, PARKING IN FRONT OF OUR HOMES, WALKING AND STOPPING IN FRONT OF OUR HOMES.  IT’S INTIMIDATION. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP SPREADING LIES AND RUMORS ABOUT US. IT’S SLANDER. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP BLACKBALLING AND BLACKLISTING US. IT’S MODERN DAY “MCCARTHYISM”. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP DESTROYING OUR PERSONAL AND REAL PROPERTY. THAT’S VANDALISM. STOP “BREAKING AND ENTERING” OUR HOMES. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

STOP OVERCHARGING US OR REFUSING TO PROVIDE US SERVICES. IT’S DISCRIMINATION. IT’S ILLEGAL, IT’S IMMORAL, IT’S UNETHICAL.

JUST STOP. 

SETTLE-UP. PAY WHAT YOU MUST, AND YOU MUST PAY.

IT IS ILLEGAL, IT IS UNETHICAL, IT IS IMMORAL. 

WE ALL KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG. 

THERE IS NOTHING RIGHT ABOUT ANY OF THIS IS.

COVER-UP, UNCOVERED.

SETTLE UP NOW. FOR PAYMENT OF WORK PRODUCT. FOR PENALITIES AND INTEREST. FOR TORTURE AND ABUSE. FOR ILLEGAL, CRIMINAL ACTIVITY.

Stop!

How dare you sit in your ivory tower with your smug male privilege, and pontificate on the due processes of the law,when a woman is raped, brutalised, tortured and killed? How dare you blithely quote irrelevant statistics of false rape cases, or even worse, assure me it's not as bad as I think?

Tell me, what precautions do you take to protect your body when you go out to study, to work, or to relax with your friends?

Is pepper spray a standard fixture in your bag?

Do you plan your casual evening out down to a T, with back-up plans, just in case, because you don't know what will happen to your body outside the safety of your home?

Do you ever, in a crowd, use your peripheral vision to watch out for the unknown hand that may grope your breast?

Do you stand in a bus or a train, your bag in front like body armour while your sub-conscious monitors the unknown groins behind you that may push against your back at any time?

Do you walk on a lonely road, one hand clutching your bag while the other tightly holds your phone? And if you then see some men lounging about, rather than striking up a casual conversation, do you cross that road with downcast eyes, to avoid 'encouraging' them merely by looking?

Do you leave your drink unattended, and on returning, spend even a moment thinking about what may be in it?

Do you think twice about sharing your phone number or pictures on social media?

When you meet someone new and go out on a date, do you share your location with at least two people, just so someone knows where you are, just in case...

In your broken country with your rotting system, where criminals walk free,where rapists burn survivors and destroy their families, where justice is often delayed so long that it is denied, how dare you lecture me for wanting swift retribution?

Look deeper into your own casual misogyny. Stop normalising violence to my body, my soul and my life everyday, everywhere, in every dress.

Perhaps then you will comprehend how crippled is my faith in you and your laws.