#stopbeforeyoustart

Don't judge people or get angry if they won't come to your function, maybe they're doing their best just to keep their heart beating today.

Don't expect people to bring presents, it's been a hard year, they might be struggling just to put food on the table, keep the lights on or buy their meds.

Don't force the holiday spirit on people. Some people have suffered severe trauma through the holiday period. You still expect them to be jolly about it just for you?

Christmas is a time to love, to be kind and care for others. Not to force big parties, bankruptcy, meltdowns or flashbacks on others.