#stop objectifying us

all right i need to let something out. I've downloaded TikTok and big mistake because it's got me angrier than ever. along all the "rich girl check"'s and "private school check"'s which keep hitting my buttons harshly enough,

a trend which has apparently made a come back is the "omg i wish i had a gay couple as friends/classmates/etc.".

what astonishes me is how these comments always come from girls. like y'all are talking about feminism and fighting objectification yet do not mind talking about lgbt's as if they were pets.

i get it, it's not all girls yada yada yada. just as much as not all men are misogynists. it's still not an excuse to shield yourself from being part of the problem. i just wish to understand better this thing which upsets me so much. just how is it possible to inflict on others the same treatment you're striving to free your own community from.

(it's the same when i see gays fatshaming or being terfs, and so on. i know we're not immune from judgement).

I've never felt more like an object to show around than these days.

Recently I’ve become a brand new member of the “women who have been publicly objectified” club. It’s disgusting and quite difficult to get over since it’s the first time it’s ever happened to me. But most of all it’s incredibly dehumanizing. I can’t stop thinking about it and whenever I’m going somewhere I keep imagining that people are staring at me. I feel like a Goddamn whore.

I am an owner of rather large breasts and it’s always been a huge problem for me, especially when I was growing up. The number of emotional breakdowns that happened behind closed doors so that no one would know and unspoken (and rather dumb, now that I’m looking at it) wishes for an illness or accident that would make me lose them speek for themselves, I think. I remember crying and not being able to stop because of that one thing that now is being commented on and rather nastily looked at. You know, women are not objects. We are so much more than our bodies. We have every right to wear whatever we want without anyone thinking that they have the right to fuck us with their minds. You know, I used to laugh at my mum’s worries that I should be careful about what I’m wearing, because, since I am a young woman, something might happen to me - but now I think twice before putting on this dress or that tshirt and it’s really not how it should be.

I want to be clear about something - this isn’t some angry feminism thing (even though I do identify myself as a feminist), it’s simply about the fact that I shouldn’t be afraid for my safety or hide myself behind baggy tshirts just so that men see a h u m a n  b e i n g not a fuck toy. Also, I have a little sister who’s just hit puberty and quite honestly - I started to seriously worry about her too. ‘Cause God forbid someone says something objectifying about her one day - they’ll have me to answer to.

I wish there was more emphasis on educating kids about what should and should not be said or done to another person. Yet I live in a country where people think that sexual education, something so vital to ensure a healthy society and get rid of the taboos surrounding the topic, claim that it’s the means to sexualize children. And it’s not just some random people on the streets - I’m talking about members of the government - people who should have the nation’s well-being put as their priority and instead they let their ideology in many ways compromise the healthy outlook on broadly understood equality and respect for another human being, however different they wouldn’t be.

I’m not gonna drag this monologue any longer, and if you got all the way down here, I want to thank you so much! <3 I just want you all to remember this - women are humans and they do not deserve to be objectified because they happened to be born with one set of genes instead of another. We are more than our tits or butts. Stop thinking that their size makes you entitled to making disgusting or simply inappropriate comments.