#soul level

It is obvious that clients benefit from having their family constellations set up and worked with.

It is a common misconception that representatives and observers benefit less, and I want to correct it. Constellations are, in fact, equally valuable for clients, representatives, and observers alike. This seems surprising, and yet it is a universal experience. Family constellations offer clients, representatives, and observers equally the chance to learn about life and relationships on a very deep, experiential level.  

Representing and observing give us life experience that is every bit as deep as having our constellation done. Clients who come only to have their own constellation done are missing a large part of the benefit. Representing and observing enhance our integration skills as clients, and experience in the constellation energy field is an education in life and relationship skills. 

Benefits for Clients and Their Families 

Clients have stories—the stories they always tell about their families: their father was like this; their mother was like that; they suffered thus and so. They come with a familiar picture of who the good and bad guys in their family are. They have told these stories hundreds of times and yet telling them brought no fundamental changes. These stories are never true on the Soul Level. A family constellation sets clients free from this paradigm. They discover the rules that govern their family energy field. They experience how various members are caught up and moved to behave and act in certain ways, rather than acting out of free choice. And at the end of a constellation, they are left with a healing image that percolates over time into their lives and into their family energy field. Because it affects the whole family energy field, a constellation has an effect on all the members of a family, not only on the person who set it up. 

Benefits for Representatives 

THE ROLE OF THE REPRESENTATIVES 

Representatives stand in the place of a person (the client’s mother, father, or child; a victim; a perpetrator; etc.) or an abstract concept or entity (Death, Life, a country, etc.) and are chosen by either the facilitator or the client. It does not matter who is chosen to represent. Usually, it is better to have men representing men, and women representing women. However, I have found that it makes no real difference except in the case where, in a group sufficiently rich in participants of both genders, a client chooses a man to represent a woman or vice versa. Then the choice is significant. When facilitators choose, they do not know what the people being represented look like, and so cannot be influenced. Clients are likely to choose representatives who resemble the represented people in some way. Sometimes this is uncanny. 

Benefits for the Observer 

The task of observers is to hold and sustain the energy field that a constellation brings into being with their attention. In a way, the observer gets it all free.  

Watching the deepest human dramas unfold and find their resolution, and learning how human life works on the Soul Level, Observer feels so liberated—so wonderfully clean in their energy field—and all They had done was watch attentively. 

SUMMARY 

The method of family constellations is as follows: 

The client and the facilitator define the issue.

The client, or sometimes the facilitator, chooses representatives for family members.

The client sets up these representatives in space and direction.

The energy field takes over and the representatives start to feel what the people they are representing feel. The facilitator may ask the representatives what is happening to them, or may simply let the “Movements of the Soul” take place.

The facilitator asks the representatives to say particular phrases, which can be regarded as Truth Statements, to each other.

All moves or utterances are regarded as experimental. If the energy field changes toward resolution, the moves or utterances are shown to be well chosen.

At a certain point, usually, when the constellation nears resolution, the client may take his or her place in the constellation.

Resolution happens when the people represented have found peace. It is not inevitable, and it may be surprising.