Tfw, your partner is reaching his prime during sexy time….

SO B4 I START...

  This is something I worked on before i started using Tumblr for these things so i can be found on my Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/notes/brian-richards/lovers-fri3nd/473814792632949

So that's the rough and this is the now...LEGGO

  We're not talking about open relationships here, we're talking two people who:

1) Like each others company, hang out, all that stuff. Tell each other bout their guy probs n girl probs…Uno close friends.

AND!!!

2) Find each other physically appealing and openly express it, at least to each other. They my not necessarily be intimate, they may just make out or what ever…That's not important, you get the idea.

  Moving on…

  So lover and friends, what’s wrong with it??? Some people ultimately assume it means being fuck buddies but that's now what it HAS to be.Being friends with benefits isn't strictly that, but I don’t know you tell me. I think that if two people don’t see the need in putting a social label on each other to define their relationship(saying that this is my bf, gf, or we dealing), then nothing is wrong with that. Actually I think people who are friends and develop their relationship:

1)Make for better actual future couples

2)Have stronger, better relationships

Why??

‘Cuz they understand each other, they know each other. He was there when that bastard broke her heart, he isn't gonna make her cry, she was there when that chick cheated on him, she don’t wanna see him like that again, and with no commitment there is no room for hurt.

SIMPLICITY AT ITS BEST!!!

Think about it for a sec run it over, the games we like to play and call them relationships or someone who helped bury your skeletons and knows who you are, who understand you, know your needs, can be honest with you ‘cause of the relationship you have and you can satisfy what ever “needs” each other has, what ever it may be…

You know what I don’t understand with girls these days….You mean so much to them that they could never see themselves spending a lifetime of bliss with you because you understand them, care for them, pick them up and dust them off and all that. But they’d rather have a dude who does the little things like neglect to tell them their beautiful after 10years, or as far as beat them to a pulp or cheat on them. Alright that might be a stretch with the marriage and abuse thing but you get the idea….They don’t want to be with you because it might “Ruin the friendship”

Now let me paint this picture:

I know all the pain you’ve been through with guys, I’ve been there with you as a friend, honest, telling you when you’re wrong and backing you when they are and you need to let go. Then someday God decides “Alright you’re gonna like this girl now!” and I tell you what would you say…what thought process goes off in a woman’s brain when this occurs….ladies???? Well this isn’t a live chat so I’m gonna take a guess and say you evaluate our friendship and then somehow arrive at it would never work.

What the…Just, please...

But back to the matter at hand, and I’m gonna  give the ladies an ease cause idiot guys do this to, I said before, if you get into a relationship with someone you know and who knows you it’s less likely you’re gonna find out that...you know....he don’t like skittles when you already bought a pack and put some in your mouth and go “Come taste the rainbow.”

So over the past few days, about a week of observing all the wrongs and mistakes we make as teenagers interacting in different settings and backgrounds, i have accumulated a wealth of material to write on. However its hard to generalize it and contextualize it because its all a muddle and the people i studied i didn't care to have all the details about the situation. So it leaves me in a very biased position and i'm not sure what to do. So i'm trying to make sense of it all and hopefully provide some material.

I’ve come to realize that we don’t know what a relationship is these days. I’m not gonna be the corny nigger who says “it’s hard work” and you have to put in time and shit…I do that later when I’m in a better mood. Let’s do this quick.

Dating/Courting

This is not a normal relationship. Just because you’re dating someone does not mean you’re together. You’re seeing each other on a romantic/semi-romantic basis, but it does not have to become serious, you’re getting to know each other and its not a commitment. If you have sex and you feel that seals the deal then you’re also wrong. That’s legit if your dating but taking the relationship beyond that is not automatic. Stop watching Disney folks!

Keeping it short and moving right along…

Together/Daz my man/Daz my ‘oman

Simple enough, y’all in a romantic relationship, ball and chain, sing it from the mountain top. Anything else is something else.

Something like what???

Open relationship..

Oh this where shit get real! Y’all an official couple, but you see other people on the side, have threesomes and stuff. The main thing is where you emotions lie. Anytime you have feels for one of your flings you are violating the code of this relationship.

Friends with Benefits

“Oh nigga that shit will never work, someone always has feeling.” Don’t let the movie fool you.  It’s not impossible, I know a guy that did it, does it, I don’t know. Look sometimes an attraction is physical, lots of girls I know I never wanna be with but if I can give them the D once or twice I’d do it without second thought. And its not talk, think about it, cute face, bad attitude, dick her occasionally but don’t stick around long enough for y’all to piss each other off. This won’t work if you try it with someone you like who does not like you. At any time someone can end up in a relationship and this shit will violate that. Go back to Together…

Fuck Buddies

You know what take out that last bit on friends with benefits and put it here, you don’t even have to like them! Its all D with no C…cuddling. We meet; we do It like some dogs and rabbits and split. Don’t even buy them a coffee, to personal and you’re gonna spoil it. Give them the Angry Pirate Instead!

So that’s basics…