#soft wisdom

You have permission to notice the pleasant and leave the rest where it is.

Observation does not require fixing, explaining, or performance.

It is okay to receive a small kindness and let it rest inside,without feeling the need to make it mean anything else.

i think a lot of girls are terrified of being alone. they want to be loved. they want to be chosen. they want the movie love. and obviously i do too. i used to think i’d marry my high school sweetheart. i used to dream about that kind of love. but then life happens. and you realize… people kind of suck.

and that’s not to say you won’t find your soulmate. you probably will. but the truth is: you probably won’t find them at 16.

the person you’re dating at 15, 16, 17? they’re not your soulmate. they’re just someone in your area.

and when you grow up, you’ll realize how small your world was. you’ll go to college. travel. meet new people. become someone you’ve never been before. and maybe then, you’ll find someone who actually matches the person you’ve become.

so don’t settle for someone who treats you like an option just because they’re here now. don’t lower your standards because you’re scared no one else will come.

someone else will come.

i know that for a fact because… even though all my exes sucked, there was one who didn’t. one who felt heaven-sent. and even though we weren’t right for each other in the long run, the way she loved me? the way she cared about me? that’s proof that love like that exists. and if one person could love me that deeply, someone else can too.

and listen… i’m not perfect. i’m bad at texting back. i’m insecure. i’m just a normal person. but even with all that, someone loved every little thing about me. so if you’re sitting there thinking you’re too much, too weird, too damaged: you’re not. you’re loveable. as you are. right now.

you don’t need to be in a relationship at 19. you don’t need to get married by 25. you don’t need to panic just because you’re not being chosen yet.

you’re not late. you’re just growing.

people fall in love at all ages. you could meet your soulmate at 30. 40. 67. it’s not a race.

and yes, you might have to wait a little longer to find someone who actually sees you. but wouldn’t you rather wait for something real than give your whole heart to someone who only halfway deserves it?

so don’t rush. don’t chase. don’t beg. and please don’t lower your standards just because you’re scared to be alone.

be prudish. be picky. be delusional. believe in love and still walk away when someone doesn’t give it to you.

and if you’ve never had a relationship? that’s okay too. you’re not behind. you’re just waiting for the right one, and you deserve to.

because if i could find someone who loved me that much once, i know i’ll find it again. and so will you.

𓂀 ◌✨

A Moss Sloth was curled around a branch today,

so still that the moss on its back

seemed to be doing most of the living for it.

When it finally stirred,

the movement was tiny—

a slow stretch,

a long blink,

a quiet sigh.

No urgency.

No rush.

Just a creature moving

exactly when it felt like moving.

I watched for a while.

It didn’t hurry to notice me.

It didn’t pretend to have plans.

It simply existed at its own pace,

and in doing so,

reminded me I could too.

Not everything needs to happen quickly.

Some days, taking your time

is the only thing that makes sense.

The sloth blinked once more,

as if to seal the lesson,

then returned to the sacred art

of being unbothered.