#snarkustotallus

Recently I told my childhood bff that I didn’t want to ever birth a child. We’ve been friends for like 23 years now, but lately our lifestyles have really changed. Not to say we can’t chill and be friends, but it’s growing increasingly obvious to me that she doesn’t understand where I’m coming from.

She tells me, “you say that now, but you’ll have kids”. And I’m like. Bro. This isn’t a joke. This isn’t me being like “ewww, babies” sarcastically. I do not want to birth a child. I don’t want to raise a kid from the ages of infancy to pre-potty trained. I’m quite certain that I’ll do a pretty shitty job of it, and all the while give myself an unnecessary amount of stress and anxiety. Through nannying my nephews, I’ve learned that I cannot handle potty-training. It is EXTREMELY difficult for me. I also have no desire to have an infant depend on my body for food and nourishment (and if I’m able to breastfeed, I couldn’t bring myself to force formula). I’m too independent of a person to want that.

And after explaining these things to her she’s still giving me this look like “you say this now, but later...” And it is so GODDAMN INFURIATING. Like no. I’ve come to this decision after a LOT of thinking. 

It’s not like I said I didn’t want to ever have kids. I just don’t want to birth them, or care for extremely young ones. I DO however, want to foster and adopt. Several children if I’m able. I love kids, and I think pre-teen and teenage foster kids need more attention, love, and care than they get. I remember being a teenager and it sucked - but I didn’t have all that extra shit to deal with that foster teens have.

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