Over the last few months I have been asked “why/how are you single?” Multiple times from different people. My response has always varied, “I don’t know,” “you tell me” to “sometimes it’s by choice sometimes it’s not.” Lately it’s been more of a shrug and I don’t say anything. I’m almost always lost for words. Because how does a single person answer that? I could go through the list of why I think I’m single; too big a personality, hips too wide with thighs to match, opinionated, or many other things I could nit pick. I could compare myself to the girls they always pick (instead of me - even though I’m “awesome”) I could tell them it’s because I’m always the friend. But the fact is I am single. I love myself and won’t dim my light just to be with someone. I realized I find the question insulting, it’s like saying “you’re so awesome but what’s wrong with you to not have someone?” Because there has to be something wrong with ME to make me undateable. I’m single and instead of attempting to compliment me by asking why, either ask me out or just say I’m awesome. Don’t add the question. I am me and I am not going to settle for someone who wants me to be different. I love myself and if that means I’ll be single so be it. #dating #singlehood #singleandthatsok #stopasking #loveyourself #beauthentic #idontknowwhy
