#shotagun

out of all the links i posted these are the ones that focus less on rape and more on general sexism stuff

also in my links i think i disproportionately left out trans women so i'll drop these too (that last one is a video about men and femininity but has some stuff about trans women in there too) if you're interested i know you made a comment on trans people earlier so uh yea i think they're worth checking out

i think getting mad at you would be counterproductive? i mean it wouldn't help you understand feminism and it would diminish your will to read or learn about it so that's a lose-lose for everyone? plus being aggressive right off the bat is not usually my style

individuality is a pretty big part of feminism. the main point is dragging sexism into the light so that people are aware of what societal pressures are put on women simply for being women and also to encourage women take control of their own bodies and lives and make a safe environment for EVERYONE to live in (aka feminism benefits all genders and persons)

(though like you said there are some people that call themselves feminists but are not really doing any good because they're excluding trans women or women of color or telling women what to do [like telling women not to shave even if they choose to shave because they don't like their body hair] which is the opposite like wowowwow polar opposites. we're talking about the difference between hot and cold here)

i get how it's like we're talking about social responses to women and trying to change the parts that are sexist and it seems fruitless because we're not actually like changing laws??? but if feminists educate people on the sexist ways society views women and womens' lives and womens' personal choices and womens' bodies and womens' everything then that's a huge step in itself i think. i mean yea we're blogging for the most part and not really camping outside capitol hill but we don't exactly have to to the extent you might think. the more society's attitudes change towards sexism and women that's more children being raised in a less sexist society and at least 635 (and more if the population rises) will work on capitol hill on day and that equals better lives for women through laws that make it easier to get medical care and birth control and prosecute rapists with a higher conviction rate and equal pay for equal work for people of all genders. i hope i didn't just go horribly off-topic ;; sry if i did

i get the whole negative reaction to man-hating feminists and the point of feminism as i understand it is not to place either sex over the other so like no one's better than anyone but obviously you get a few bad apples in every bunch so i think that disregarding feminism completely because of a few radfems as they're called is not beneficial to anyone

everything else you said is like i get to a degree if not completely except for this line

omg come on not all of them are like that not all of them are going to rape you

i think this is a good chance to briefly explain how sexism works and why it's bad and why we need to talk about it aka the need for feminism

this article (about half way down) has this to say about women protecting themselves from potential rapists and the victim-blaming that follows if they're not ''''the right amount of careful'''''

There’s a poisonous double standard in our society which says that it’s reverse-sexist and wrong for women to feel threatened by creepy-awkward male behaviour because our fear implies that we hold the negative, stereotypical view that All Men Are Predators, but that if we’re raped or sexually assaulted by any man with whom we’ve had prior social interaction – and particularly if he’s expressed some sexual or romantic interest in us during that time – it’s reasonable for observers to ask what precautions we took to prevent the assault from happening, or to suggest that we maybe led the guy on by not stating our feelings plainly. The result is a situation where women are punished if we reject, avoid or identify creepy men, and then told it’s our fault if we’re assaulted by someone we plainly ought to have rejected, avoided, identified.