#shaespeaks

Late night ramblings.

As a very openly independent woman, I used to abhor just the thought of making a sandwich for a man. Over the years – there has been quite the stigma around ‘make me a sandwich’ and how women belong in the kitchen. Drawing from not only personal experience, but the personal experiences of other women in my life and the strain of toxicity that tends to run throughout most of the male population, here is a little insight on why I was adamantly against sandwich making. 

*Mind you I’m not speaking on behalf of all women – this is solely my opinion alone. 

I’ll break it down into two questions:

1.Who?

2.Why? 

Who is the person you are preparing this sandwich for? 

Truly.

Is he a good man? Does he respect you? Love you unconditionally? Is he someone you feel safe with?

Or does he break you down mentally – calling you hateful names when he’s angry. Do you often find yourself avoiding topics in conversations because you want to ‘avoid that argument’? Do you isolate yourself from your friends because he doesn’t like them and being around them causes conflict? Are other women a factor? Because if he’s taking time out to have flirty, meaningful conversations with that girl in his DM’s then he can make his own sandwich. 

Why are you making him a sandwich? 

Most answers here are – “Well, he worked all day.” Girl – didn’t you? Do not – I repeat – do not ever let someone (especially a man) tell you that your 9-5 job is not as hard as theirs. From Teachers, Receptionists, Stay at Home Moms, to Businesswomen, and do not get me started on Nurses. Your jobs can be just as hard – especially mentally - as any manual labor job out there. 

So how was I able to break away from the stigma?

It takes a King. 

Girl – you’re a Queen.

When you finally find a King – because we know there are plenty of Jokers out there – you’ll know. 

Everything comes in time, and it comes naturally. 

Never settle for less than you deserve.