Rin was not groomed and pedophiled by Sesshomaru.

Alina Starkov was not groomed and pedophiled by the Darkling.

Rhaenyra Targaryen was not groomed and pedophiled by Daemon Targaryen (show or book).

Ellen Hutter was not groomed and pedophiled by Orlok.

But in other hand...

Tyler Galpin was groomed by Laurel Gates.

Kylo Ren was groomed by Snoke / Palpatine.

Thomas Sharpe was groomed by his older sister Lucille Sharpe.

It's funny that this trend has always used the word grooming specifically for female characters who are not victims of it in order to demonize the male characters involved (at all, or more than the story already does) for reasons probably linked to the delirium of purity culture.

On the other hand, notice that when a morally gray male character is the victim of grooming in the story, it is rather denial in order to continue to demonize the male character to make him the complete aggressor of the heroine who happens to be the romantic interest of the morally ambiguous guy.

So again this notion of victimizing the female character in order to make her the victim of the man when generally, the man and the woman in this second type of story are in fact both victims of a superior antagonist.

🌙Hanyo no Yashahime, Chapter 46