#servicedogpunk textposts

you’re in his dms? okay, well, im on top of him. we’re not fucking he just likes the pressure

it shouldn’t be taboo to admit that there are disabled people who are more or less disabled than you.

i consider myself mid support needs. i am in pain every day of my life, all the time, and am significantly impaired by that. i can’t work full time. i require significant support to get through the day. i need my service dog to function properly. i can’t live alone, at least not right now. i can’t effectively mask my autism.

but i still have privilege over other disabled people. i can walk. i don’t have to worry about wheelchair accessibility when i travel. i have no visible deformities or intellectual disabilities. i am verbal.

some people are more disabled and others are less disabled. it’s okay. it doesn’t mean that you’re not valid or that you don’t deserve help. it just means you do not have the exact same needs as someone else.

reminder: just because a disabled person has accommodations does not mean they will perform at the same level or have the same capabilities as a non-disabled person! accommodations are there to make life easier for the disabled person, but they don’t erase the fact that we are disabled. as an employer, parent, peer, etc. you must be open to the possibility that a disabled person will be DISABLED by their condition. if you only see accommodations as an excuse to expect the same from a disabled person as you would from a non-disabled person, you are not the ally you think you are

a sentiment i hear a lot in the online disability community is that if you think you need a mobility aid, you should just use one, and you don’t need a doctor’s approval.

while it is technically true that anyone can buy and use a mobility aid, i want to talk about why this can be potentially dangerous.

improperly fit or incorrectly used mobility aids can cause physical harm. so can using a mobility aid that isn’t the right type for you. there are also downsides to full time and frequent use, even for people who have been medically approved.

that’s not to say that those who desire a mobility aid don’t truly need one- a lot of them do. but it’s necessary to weigh the pros and cons of mobility aid usage, and it’s important to go through the process to figure out what mobility aid is best suited to you.

reminder that there are many physical disabilities that involve the brain. disorders can be both neurological and psychiatric, but they are two separate categories of illness.

in discussions about brain dysfunction, people usually think of neurodiversity and mental illness. neurological disorders that are primarily physical are often left out of the conversation entirely.

many neurological conditions are not psychiatric, and treating the two as synonymous is denying the lived experiences of a large percentage of the physically disabled population.

people assume that being physically disabled makes you more empathetic to the pain of others, but that’s not always the case.

for me, it feels unfair when others are in pain and don’t feel the need to hide that fact, because i have internalized the idea that i’m not allowed to talk about my own. it annoys me that, while most are typically understanding if a non disabled person doesn’t operate at their full capacity due to sickness or injury, disabled people are expected to function normally as if that isn’t our every day. as much as i want to feel solidarity towards a suffering person, it feels impossible not to be envious when their illness or ailment is temporary, but i will never, ever get a break from mine.

for obvious reasons i would never say any of directly to someone, because my pain doesn’t make theirs any less valid or real. still, i can’t help but feel that my disability has made me bitter and unkind, because i can’t help but compare my own experiences with theirs.

this is the reality of disability- it does not create perfect people. many of us are broken and struggle to connect with others because of our conditions, and that does not mean we are evil people

i don’t know why people are so allergic to the idea of disabled doms and tops. god forbid a chronically ill person likes to have their needs considered and attended to by a supportive partner, but prefers be the one taking care of them in the bedroom.

disabled people aren’t submissive by default. we’re allowed to have sex, and we’re allowed play active roles. fandoms assuming a certain dynamic based exclusively on a character’s disability is the quickest way to turn me off of a ship

the line between visible and invisible disability isn’t as clear cut as some people make it out to be. the definition of what makes someone visibly disabled depends heavily on who you ask.

for example, most people consider full time mobility aid users like myself to be visibly disabled. but many of us are using visible disability aids to treat invisible symptoms, and that’s when it starts becoming harder to separate us into a single box.

i can relate to having my need for accommodations questioned because my disability isn’t immediately apparent. but i also understand why visibly disabled people are insulted by the implication that we have our support needs more easily met then those with invisible disabilities.

i think these labels are frequently used to divide our community, when the reality is nuanced. both visibly and invisibly disabled people experience individual forms of ableism.