I hate accusations that Wei Wuxian was at fault for being 'avoidant' in regards to the Golden Core.
If you had to go through an incredibly traumatic experience and pain of having an organ torn out of your body while you were wide awake, would you be keen to talk about it yourself? There have been many real life incidence of patients waking up in the middle of their surgeries still under anesthesia but wide awake and being able to feel exactly what was happening to them. They couldn't feel the pain but they could still feel their insides being rummaged. The smell of burnt flesh. The pull and tug and detachment of their organs. The ptsd they develop from the trauma would be so severe that their marriage and job would suffer to a point of loss. The trauma would ruin their relationship with everyone around them. Losing control over your own emotions is guaranteed. Triggers are so common that day to day life is almost impossible.
Imagine having to willingly go through that for 2 days and 1 night straight. When When Wei Wuxian says he doesn't want to talk about it, he's not being avoidant. Anyone who's ever dealt with trauma can understand the visceral fear you experience at the thought of having to mentally go through with it again.
Wei Wuxians rejection of society and pulling away from the people he loved had nothing to do with ego. It was fear. Self isolation is a very clear symptom of ptsd and trauma in general. I doubt he cared about people leering at him for his choice of cultivation or his impulsive actions. But to be reminded of it every dau when people mention his sword or by the people he cared about scolding him for choosing the path he did, speaking from experience, the pain would have been unbearably numbing.
I think obsessive Jiang Cheng stans love ignoring this in favor of defending their beloved. Wei Wuxian's trauma is woefully understated. Not even mentioning his trauma of losing the only family he's every known. He might not have been related to jiang fengmian by blood and madame Yu might have been ruthless, but they were still his family. He grew up with the juniors there. They looked up to him. Arguably, his pain might not have been as deep as Jiang Chengs, but to ignore it (which is what so many do) is just unfair. Wei Wuxian went through lost twice. The first time being his parents and the second being Lotus Pier. Of course he has severe survivors guilt. The fact that Jiang Cheng needs to have that spelled out for him is frustrating.
Wei Wuxian is a flawed character, but his traumas were colors that painted the canvas that is his life, and that is so very important.
