#semibisexual

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In order: Semimulti/semspec (haha silly pun), semibi, semipan, semipoly/semiply, semiomni, semiabro.

The Semspec and all identities within it describe anyone who is simultaneously a multiorientation (bisexual, panromantic, polyplatonic, omnisensual, abroaesthetic, etc.) and also attracted to one gender, in some way. These labels would be used by:

- Abrosexual people who are always constantly attracted to one gender, but who's attraction to other genders is fluid or comes and goes. They may use only semiabro, or may also use semibi, semipan, semipoly, or semiomni as well.

- People who experience split attraction and are multioriented in one form of attraction, while mono-oriented in the other

- People who are only attracted to one gender, however their attraction includes multigender or genderfluid people, as long as the gender they are attracted to is one of their genders.

- People who are attracted to one spectrum of similar genders (such as only being attracted to fiaspec genders), leading to this gray area of being attracted to multiple genders, but because all those genders are so similar or could be considered variants of the same gender, it's more similar to mono-oriented people's experiences than how multioriented people usually experience attraction.

- Only experiencing attraction to one gender, but open to and potentially interested in that type of relationship with people of other genders for reasons other than attraction, making one "functionally multi/bi/pan/poly/omni"

- Experiencing attraction to multiple genders, but only open to/interested in that type of relationship with one gender, making one "functionally mono"

- Attracted to one gender, but one wants to use the "attracted to genders similar and dissimilar to one's own" or "experiencing homosexuality and heterosexuality" definitions of bi, and because they are multigender, their attraction would fit this.

There may be other reasons someone could use these, but these are the reasons I could think of.

The semspec is a reclamation of "semibisexual," a label that seemingly was made in bad faith, but I saw potential in its original rudimentary definition for being able to describe more nuanced experiences with gendered attraction. These terms are obviously not for people who do not, in some way, experience both mono attraction and multi attraction at the same time.

It WAS made by trolls. But some try to reclaim it. I’m going on a journey of labels, and some just seem wrong to me.

So many say bi-lesbian is biphobic, and they also say Semibisexual is biphobic. Do you have a sense of empathy for this label? I’m leaning towards dislike of it. Unlike Bi-lesbian, it doesn’t have historical significance at all. It’s purely at the start was a troll sexuality.

tbh i havent heard of semibisexual before (or if i did, i just forgot)- but regardless of its origins, if theres people who want to reclaim it, use it for themselves, and feel properly described by it in whatever way they define it, then good for them!

a term having history is nice for being able to see people in the past with experiences like your own, see how the term came about and why and all the details of its past, and to show people who view anything new as inferior that 'Hey, this has actually been around for a while, and isnt going away.' but to be honest, i truly dont give a shit if a term as historical significance or not- if people find their own significance in it, then i think theres value to it. including if its history is unsavory.

plus, semi-bi sounds easily like something some may use as shorthand for their split attraction, something along the lines of being heteroflexible or homoflexible, perhaps something related to abrosexuality- it really doesnt seem like a far-fetched idea to me that some may identify with it.

overall though, its not my or anyone elses place to dictate what other people identify with. if someone isnt labeling other people something they do not identify with, and is just using it for themselves, then its their business, and their business alone. they can label themselves and define them however they want, period.

and frankly, even if someone is trolling when they say they identify as a certain thing, im just going to respond with "okay" or ignore them. because 1. trolls WANT to get a rise out of people, do not give them what they want 2. some people do genuinely have identities that seem troll-like because their identity is simply not understandable to you (yet or potentially ever) or they are reclaiming it from trolls, and i just do not care to shift through to make judgements about others lives that ultimately dont affect me, and play the game of "what is or is not genuine/valid." truly, Who Give A Fuck, i got other shit to do.

Semibi- (semibisexual, semibiromanti, etc.) or semi-bi- (semi-bisexual, semi-biromantic...): bi individuals only attracted to only one gender or only one sex; bi nonconformity.

While the roots could be trolls satirizing mogai labels as mockery, many reclaimed it or readopted it to mean another thing, expanding the notions of nonmono- orientations. Such as including those who are:

Bicurious, biflexible, heterocurious, heteroflexible, homocurious, homoflexible, androcurious, androflexible, gynecurious, gyneflexible, monocurious, monoflexible, etc.

Bispec people with gender-related or juvelic preferences (femaric, mascic, equaric, or duaric)

Questioning, undefined, or unsure people

Varioriented people such as homoromantic heterosexual or heteromantic homosexual

Abro-/amplusic people fluctuating or flowing through the homo/hetero continuum, or multioriented and centrioriented people

Gayhet people in general, including multigender and genderfluid people

Those who are MGA (experience multi-gender attraction) but is only SSA or OSA/DSA or MSA but only SGA or OGA/DGA/CGA.

Semicelibate, those who are half-asexual half-bisexual, or to chose dating or mating only one gender/sex or only pursuing attraction to a specific sex/gender, despite attracted to multiple

Attractionally monosexual monoromantic but identitarily/identitarianly bi, for any reason

Trixenamoric, torenamoric, neptunic, uranic, penulti-, differo-, similo-, pencontra-, and related identities

A blend of semi- (ie semisexual, semiromantic) and bi-.

hi, i'm kitty girl, but you can call me kit for short. i go by she/they/it/ze/fae/nya/kitten/niggaself pronouns. i am autistic and have depression. (both self dx) i am a proud femboysexual! i am semibisexual as well.

Should I recoin semibisexual?

I've heard it's a bad faith term but I think there's premises in the original definition that can be salvaged or transformed. I don't actually know much about semibi and its history or purpose when being coined.