Love is a choice and an action more than anything else. As Lewis writes, love is a habit to be strengthened "deliberately" and "maintained by the will". What a profound, freeing view of love! To know that love isn't something one falls into and out of. To know that love isn't something that comes and goes mysteriously. And to know that love is not a fickle thing, prone to leaving as soon as emotions dry up. Friends, there's a reason God defined marriage as a covenant bound by love. His version of love—the biblical version—is by nature covenantal. Love is both how and why God himself has a covenantal character. That's the sort of love we're called to live out in biblical marriage. Let's contrast. Marriage isn't a covenant bound by circumstances. Marriage isn't a covenant bound by emotion. Marriage isn't a covenant bound by financial security. Marriage isn't even a covenant bound by mutual benefit. If marriage were any of the above, every marriage would end shortly after starting. Instead, God gave us a better way: marriage as a covenant bound by *love*—true, objective, concrete, unchanging, unwavering, unshakeable biblical love. Friend, rest in your covenant knowing that it's there to give you the venue to learn what it means to love and be loved exactly the way God loves. That's what a Fierce Marriage looks like. Stay fierce, Ryan & Selena #seethroughbook #fiercemarriage https://www.instagram.com/p/CB3flaphzQE/?igshid=ykkzpd3n32ei
