#scheluxz

When they work, long distance relationships are the best sort of beautiful, I think. That a person could wait months, cross miles and oceans for a few short spectacular moments with the person they love, that’s it, you know, that’s what we’re all searching for.

A long distance relationship may not be easy but what you’re saying is “you’re worth waiting for.” You’re telling the other person that instead of choosing someone out of convenience, that you’re willing to put in the effort and make the sacrifices just to be with them.

There are challenges though, feelings of loneliness, jealousy and insecurity can ruin the relationship before you know it. The struggle that most people have is feeling like the other person is pulling away emotionally and then worried that they are losing interest or are interested in someone else, and then trust becomes an issue.

Decide to be trustworthy, live your life and talk to people as if your partner were standing right beside you. In other words, if you want to keep your relationship, always act like you’re in a relationship, don’t give anyone the impression that you’re not. This doesn’t mean that you should scrutinize or police everything your partner does, show them grace and that you trust them, make them feel loved for who they are. Avoid creating unfair expectations on your partner, so that you don’t end up feeling frustrated and impatient with them. Focus on your emotional connection, communication and giving each other reassurance. As long as the emotional connection is strong and both people feel loved, then they can have the faith and reassurance that everything will work out. Instead of letting doubt or fear cause you to pull away from your partner, listen to their feelings and make them feel like your priority, you have to feed the relationship if you want it to grow.

What it comes down to is that we need to feel like we’re making the right decision, we need to know that there’s a destination and that we can reach it together and meet each other’s needs.

Long distance is an opportunity to cultivate your friendship and learn how to support each other emotionally and build faith and hope in each other. Eventually, love will find a way to bring you together.

I used to believe my intuition, my judgment, my gut and I used to see the best in people.

But now it’s hard for me to give my heart away to anyone because I’ve met people who said they loved me, people who said they cared, people who vowed never to break my heart but then changed their minds overnight.

They disappeared, they loved someone else, and it left me a little unsettled. A little less hopeful. A little less optimistic and a lot more guarded.

Now it’s hard for me to tell people my secrets, my fears or my deepest thoughts because I heard they run around telling everyone.

I heard they tell me I’m strong and then run around telling everyone how weak I am. And that made me want to isolate myself from everyone. It made me want to say less or nothing at all. It made me play it too safe so no one can hurt me no matter how hard they try.

Now it’s hard for me to be hopeful because people make me cynical. I still don’t understand how someone can go from texting you every day to not texting you at all and not explain why.

I still don’t understand how people lie to your face assuming you will never find out the truth.

It’s all painful. It’s the same cycle with different people.

And yet I still trust, I still believe, I still hope because I haven’t met everyone.

I haven’t met the right one. I haven’t been surrounded by people who I naturally blend in with. I’m always trying too hard. I’m always trying to fit in. I’m always making excuses just to hold on because I hate losing people.

But now I’m learning that maybe it’s better to lose some people and make room for better ones. Fill the empty spaces with people who don’t make you regret being who you are or sharing your personal stories. Fill the empty spaces with people who teach me how to trust again and how to love without holding back.

When you can look past what you see will you understand that inside, we are the same. We wear masks to protect ourselves from letting others see that.

Deep down, we are afraid, So we remain divided, hiding and often very alone. It's when we remove our masks that we begin to come together and bond and see people as people and want to help each other.

We ALL want love, we ALL want acceptance, we ALL want to feel appreciated and that our life matters, we are ALL afraid of losing what we love. We are all not that different. We don't have to hurt each other, we really don't, we only have to learn to give whatever we want to receive: if you want acceptance, love, respect, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, understanding and empathy, give it.

Let go of the need to judge who is worthy, because none of us are and all of us are.

If you really want to show how strong you are, 'treat people as good as YOU are.' That doesn't mean that people will reciprocate and treat you the same way, it means that you are practicing love, not fear, and that you are part of the solution and not part of the problem.

The compassion and kindness that you show someone today, could be the reason they have the hope they need to make it to tomorrow.

Be the reason someone else is a little less afraid in this world.

Are they really craving for that new looks, or simply they conscious enough to not hurt themselves and leave the visible scars, so the world still remain her as a stronger one, even deep down were scattered.

Maybe the best feeling in the world is watching things finally fall into place after watching them fall apart for so long. The moment of realization of You are the one in control of the pieces. You can create the life that you want by believing in your ability to achieve it. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Relax into the moment and trust in who you are and everything becomes possible.

Every single thing that has happened in my life is preparing me for a moment that is yet to come.

Am I appreciate what the lessons have taught me?

Am I find more beauty in life or less?

Am I judge my experiences in life as good or bad?

All of my experiences teach me something about myself and all of those experiences can prepare me for something better, something more.

The question is simply,

AM I be ready?

Sometimes, I’m still dreaming about having good relationship, while both of us are single. I mean no side partner, no spouse. just a good relationship when both of us accept each other’s past, support each other’s present and love each other enough to encourage each other’s future together.

I’m not rush, and not planning to rush it.

I might be broken, but I knew one thing for sure, I never hopeless, I just not saying it out loud. Alone but never lonely.

Someday, someone will love every inch of me, the fading sunset behind my eyes, the moonlight that dances through my hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of my palms. They’re going to kiss all the parts I have kept hidden away and tell me how beautiful it all is.

Someday someone is going to say, ‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in the silence.’

I will just need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again. But most of all I will need to believe that they were written for me.

I cant sleep yet at this time, I don’t know what thought that haunt me, well I know, but it doesn’t matter.

The things is, I sat in front of my house, and suddenly I’m thinking about the day you came here, and I wasn’t here. That time, was my hardest time to really accept you as someone I’m in love with, the fact that I tried to denied.. And suddenly I feel your feeling, after several days that you tried to come and talk to me, but I didn’t come out. I’m not sure how many time you did that, but I only remember there’s one time that I saw you, but I hold my self to not going out to see you.

And maybe you didn’t know, if that time, I was breaking and cry also.. the way I saw your face, with angry, disappointment, hope and confuse.

And suddenly now, I’m sitting here, imagine that you are here, sitting here, calling me but my answered was so hard.. I cant imagine how I hurt your heart that day, and I don’t know, why now I must to feel all those feeling.

Right now, I’m really upset to myself, why I’m not try to let all things go and accept what it is, why I cant be someone who just enjoy the present moment. Because I cant imagine, how many hours, days, weeks, even months that I wasted while I pushed you away, while I can just take that time and having the happiness moment with you.

All I can say, I’m really sorry, if I ever doubt you for the most of my time, I’m sorry if I was too hard with you, I’m sorry if I ever break your heart that you don’t deserve it.

And this is the moment that you can hear my thought, because I didn’t holding It back, I wrote anything what just cross my head, what make me feel bad and hurt at the same time.

I’m so sad right now, and remembering your pain gave me a tears, and its terrible. I’m so terrible right now. I’m really sorry if this message so random.. I don’t even know why..  

This vulnerability come from separation, abandonment, betrayal, violation, and lack of self-love.

And I feel like life has singled me out, and in some ways has placed an unfair burden on my shoulders. I feel that when I take an action and try to reach my goals, I run into difficulty and then feel blocked. And sometimes, I feel so inhibited that I avoid pursuing what I want. Instead of dealing with my feelings, I’ve suppressed them in order to function and survive. I know, some others have gone similar experience, yet I still feel alienated because my wound is unique to me, and I just want to keep it hidden.

At times, it make me feel alone, thinking no one understand me. I wonder why this has happened to me, it just doesn’t make sense and seems fair.