#sashayed

but anyway this is the ask:

Anonymous said:

I ran into a friend that I had a falling out with during the election(he maintained that Clinton was going to be far worse than Trump) and he was shaken, telling me that I had been right all along and he was so scared. And like, I know I should be forgiving and shit and save violence for the Nazis but Gus, I nearly decked him right there in the street. How do I deal with friends who have seen the light when I want to do is scream obscenities?

RAVE: OH BOY.

GUS: and I’m like “JUST SCREAM OBSCENITIES AND SET HIM ON FIRE” but IDK if that’s… productive

YEAH I KNOW

RAVE: haha. hahaha. FUCK THIS FUCKING GUY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GUS: WITH A TURNIP!!!!

RAVE: FUCK THIS COMPLACENT, WILFULLY IGNORANT SACK OF PRIVILEGED GARBAGE IN ABSOLUTELY EVERY ORIFICE HE POSSESSES!!!!!!!!!ok felt good to get that out

GUS: god I know I KNOW

RAVE: i mean. i think anger does not have to be bad. we don’t have to bite back anger.

GUS: **nods

RAVE: what we can do, if possible, is make anger constructivehave you ever had someone, usually an older person, make you INCREDIBLY ASHAMED OF YOURSELF by being quiet, stern and angry?

GUS: oh god yes I haveYeah and I can see their point of like, “save your decking energy for the nazis” too

RAVE: yes but likedon’t think of it as saving energybc that will make you stifle it or try to hide it and that’s not useful

GUS: POINT

RAVE: instead, let it come out. HARNESS IT LIKE A HORSE

GUS: LET YOUR RAGE BE A WILD STALLIONTHAT YOU TAMEOR..SOMETHING

RAVE: “listen, Zack. It was interesting to talk to you today.”“I’m incredibly angry at you. I think you made a selfish, shortsighted CHOICE”because you decided NOT TO LISTEN.and NOT TO SHOW UP.so here’s the deal, zach. you don’t have to apologize to me. you don’t have to make anything up to me. i’m pissed off at you and only time is going to change that.what you need to do is show up and put in work.your feelings aren’t the priority anymore.”and then you send him a link to your neighborhood progressive orgor tell him “i’m donating to the following charities/volunteering at x place/writing to x congressmanthat’s what i’m doing with my fury and sorrow, zach.if you mean yours, i suggest you show up with me.if you sincerely feel this bad, then you understand my anger. I care about you and I think you can do better.”

GUS: That is - extremely excellentCan I just C&P your whole thing because that’s greatand honestly a better idea than setting him on fire

RAVE: SUREthen a picture of my cat

GUS: I mean, obv.Or my dogs

RAVE: omg yes DOGGOSi mean i think it’s pretty clear that EVERYONE’s first response isSET! HIM!!! ON FIRE!!!!!!so yeah. not exactly "not mad just disappointed”but likeno. i’m fucking mad.but i am mad with an icy liquid nitrogen fire

GUS: STERNLY mad

RAVE: SHAME ON YOU mad.

GUS: Yeah okay this is 100%Thank  you for being a friend(travelled down the road and back again)

RAVE: i just don’t think this is a good time for any of us to try to repress our feelings/reactions

GUS: AGREED

So anyway anonymous with Zach The Shitty Friend, I hope this helps, if not, well… here you go: