I know I am preaching to the choir on this blog, but when I read other blogs I just have to wonder...has Sam EVER dated anyone they liked and didn't immediately start to attack, harass, talk about her looks, judge, and just trash talk the woman and Sam?
Sadly, Anon, no. EVERY woman Sam has ever dated, whether briefly or long-term, has been harassed, bullied, and criticized by certain factions of the fandom. But that's because it's NOT about the woman; it's about Sam, and it's about those "fans." I repeat, it's not about the woman.
The ones who behave badly to any woman in Sam's life fall into these categories: 1. The few remaining delusional SamCait shippers who have held onto the ship for 11 years and the new shippers who get fooled by money grabbing groups like SIS Brazil. 2. Ex-shippers who have never forgiven Sam for not actually being the captain of their SamCait ship like they thought. They hate him for this "betrayal." 3. Sam haters, who are usually shipper sympathizers or secretly shippers. 4. The truly mentally ill who have diagnosable psychosis and believe Sam is their boyfriend and any woman he dates is an interloper. 4. And a minority of Sam Onlys, who fantasize about being with Sam, and of course, his girlfriends get in the way of that fantasy.
Those of us who don't fall into any of the above categories see REALITY and are HAPPY for boyfriend Sam.
So, the woman Sam is dating could be: gorgeous, intelligent, kind, funny, talented, loved by family, friends and the groups I mentioned above would STILL hate her because it doesn't matter WHO she is, it's NOT about her. It's about what they project onto Sam. It's about THEM.
And, hey, people are entitled to their opinions and their feelings, and it would be semi okay if that's where it stopped. But, as we've seen for 11 years, that's NOT where it stops.
It's the SAME playbook every time Sam dates someone: the haters stalk her social media and EVERYONE in her life, they create fake accounts to leave hate comments and DM her hate comments, including death threats. They then do the same to her family, friends, employers. They make up false rumors about her and spread them to places like the celebrity gossip site DeuxMoi, they leave comments on Sam's social media, send him and her hate letters and suspicious packages. If they find out where she lives and/or works, they physically go there to harass her. Did I mention they send death threats? I'm not joking.
This is all well documented throughout the years. And some of Sam's girlfriends have posted about it publicly. Sam himself has pleaded directly for the haters to stop. To no avail. Their behavior is pathological, and some of them are dangerous, quite literally.
Hopefully, once Outlander ends and some time passes, the haters will move on. But, I'm not holding my breath...
You may ask, how does a Sam girlfriend deal with the harassment that comes with dating him? I'll quote what one of my Mackenzie Mauzy sources told me when I asked her how Mackenzie, Sam's ex-girlfriend (they dated from 2016-2018) dealt with the fandom bullies. The source said something along the lines of, "She ignores the nonsense and focuses on how ridiculously happy she is with Sam." Simple as that. π€·ββοΈ
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