Collision conversation – Parenting!
Hey everyone, I was quite busy couldn’t catch up with you guys. I had been to a small birthday party in my neighborhood and to my surprise I collide with Mrs. Sahithi Shankar. Oh my god, with the pregnancy glow and the little baby bump she looked beautiful than usual. You know once we hit, we hit hard and the conversation lasted for good 2 hours. What did I speak to a neighbor for so long is the question, right? It was about the parenting classes she’s attending. Then I asked to share me the knowledge because I don’t see myself attending any classes for parenting and young mothers around pleaded too. Then we got a nod from her with a radiating smile.
I asked her is it truly necessary to attend these classes dealing with constant weather changes, mood swings, pregnancy effects, etc., with a smile she held on saying ‘it’s all about COMMITMENT’ and this was the best things I heard today. Yes, first class in parenting is Commitment towards yourself to raise your child to an amazing adult. She continued saying that it is about creating a long-term vision, rereferring to our values, taking care of ourselves so we make time, have energy and patience to care our child, to try new approaches and to try adapting our vision with our children with their age and temperament.
Atharv’s Mumma asks – ‘Sahithi, how to understand children’s temperament?’ and our enlightening guru while adjusting her back to align the position of bump and her handsome husband laying a cushion behind her she continues. Children are very different from each other and so are their temperaments. Some kids are physically quiet others extremely active, most of them fall somewhere in between. And this child temperament affects us and our parenting. Overexcited me – ‘how?’
Two ways, one when you have a mental picture of how your child must act, you have an expectation. If your picture matches to your child’s temperament then you’re lucky and your parenting journey is a cake walk. If it doesn’t match, you need to revise your expectation and its still not difficult. Now, second case, when temperaments are simply more difficult to live with. Ananya’s mom – ‘what do you mean?’ Sahithi trying to pull in an example says ok, let’s say we don’t want to change our expectation and can’t gauge the child’s temperament. Like if you want a calm, soft spoken child in your idea but your child is active, loud, persistent and grumpy it is going to be a harder job as parent. Don’t you think so? We all nodded in sync imagining our kids (obviously the ones who had imagined their and who didn’t like me imagined ourselves or our siblings).
Stay tuned for Sahithi’s narration of parenting classes. Will be continued.
