safersaviour replied to your post āThisĀ āSoft Dirkā bullshit being treated as people wanting to soften...ā
DirkJake in canon was unhealthy on both sides. For his part, Dirk did smother and pressure Jake until Jake basically fled the relationship. Dirk, of course, took this as validation of his own warped idea of who he was, which led into him jumping at the chance of a fight and the long convo with Dave. Fyi. Dirk Strider is my second favourite character in Homestuck (Dave edges him out). I adore him. And all his flaws.
I try not to doubt peopleās feelings about Dirk, no worries- like Iāve said in my writing, I donāt think Dirkjakeās narrative would be outright lesser if Dirk was abusive or Dirk was controlling, and thereās absolutely a powerful narrative to draw from him that way, sure...
Itās just not the one Iām seeing in the story, and I want to bring the one I see to light--if only to be questioned.Ā
Hereās the problem from where I stand:Ā
Iām not sure what you mean by Dirk smothering Jake.Ā
Do you mean the Brobot? If so, Dirk wasnāt trying to control Jake or impose a training regimen on him. He was trying to give Jake what Jake kept saying he wanted--an adventure--and to do so in a way that kept Jake safe. It blew up on him, but at that point itās not clear Dirk could actually do anything about it. So: not motivated by Dirk as an act of control, but rather one of service.Ā
If you think itās really about training Jake rather than this motivation, then the question has to be asked: If heās that ruthless and overbearing, why isnāt Jane getting trained? Sheās even more unprepared than Jake, and in pretty much as much danger. The session will challenge her just as much. And yet Lil Seb has none of this Strife functionality.Ā
Jake, by the way, goes on to say he finds the Brobot exciting to Jane in confidence, and BGD later demonstrates Jake came not only to rely upon but believe in Dirk specifically as a protector figure, implying the Brobot itself was a better gift than it initially seemed to either.Ā
Are you including the AR?Ā If so, Dirk had no agency and no moral means of controlling the ARās behavior, and he actively seems to hate the AR for what itās doing to Jake.Ā
Do you mean his suffocating behavior in the session? Yes, Dirk fucked up there. Dirk aināt perfect, and I love his flaws too. But knocking those former two puts him on the level of the other Alphas, not somehow uniquely damaging to Jake.Ā
And itās notable Dirk was so frantic and stressed BECAUSE of the ARās behavior, combined with Jake toying with Dirkās heart by presenting himself as straight and suggesting he and Dirk would be good if Dirk was a girl...and never bothering to clear up the lies with the guy.Ā
Jake didnāt flee because Dirk is Just That Bad and he felt pressured into being with him in the first place. Jake fled because Jake is trying to avoid any possibility of confronting the fact that he might have hurt any of his friends.
And Dirk is too in love with Jake and terrified of hearing the truth (in his mind, that Jake is straight and with him because the AR--who he conflates with himself--bullied him into it) to broach the subject either.Ā