heyyy i saw that ask you answered earlier and you said that you were married and I need some advice from a married fangirl, like me! so I've been married since i was 16 and this August will be our 17y anniversary. He's a good guy, hard worker but he has zero patience for my fangirl ways and he *hates* how much I love Dean. I think its irrational, not like i sleep with a Dean body pillow in the bed with us! i don't think I should stop just to make him happy, because this makes me happy, thoughts?
I got married young too, granted not as young as you, but I've been with my (much) older husband since my 19th birthday. He actually has learned that I am a fangirl, I obsess over things very hardcore. He knows I write pornography, he's well aware of all my online dealings. . . and he's OK with it. He doesn't care if I'm in love with Dean, or Sam, or Jensen, because he knows that I know that I'll never actually be with them. He's even come to cons with me, and is a fan (though, not a huge one) of the show, and more over, the actors themselves. But, again, he knows it's just for fun. We even made up a song at con one year... ahem... "Jensennnn ain't neva gonnna fuck youuuuu" Because a lot of fans do seem to walk around with the impression that they have some magical connection to the guys and one of them will turn around and fuck them. Which is crazy. Misha Collins is my free pass, but that's crazy. Right...? lol anyway... point being...
He is ok with it because he knows it makes me happy. I sit through baseball games with him because I know it makes him happy. I've watched SuperBowls, gone to see Skynyrd 3x, all because it makes him happy, so he does the same for me.
When you're in a marriage, you are partners. You don't have to do everything the other one does, or even understand all of it, but you have to respect them and know that your job is to make the other person happy. So if that means ignoring it when I moan at the TV when Jensen is naked... he accepts it. If that means I gotta act excited when some ball gets hit somewhere, I do.
I'd talk to your husband and let him know that it upsets you that he is nasty about your hobbies and interests.
Also... my husband bought me a naked Sam & Dean pillowcase and it's in our bed still. He actually woke up on it the other night like "GAHH!!" so ... yeah. lol
long story short: If you love someone, you should accept what makes them happy. Especially if it's someting silly like being in love with a fictional character. Because, no offense... Deannn ain't neva gonna fuck youuuu (cuz he aint real)