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Message for today : learn to listen with your heart, not your fears,pain, past experiences and baggage. To do that you may need to unpack the past of your experiences. Nobody deserves to be judged through the lens of your past. Leave the past in the past. If its not in the past, deal with that before you try to move forward. Baggage weighs down your heart, distorts your vision and can damage something really good despite your best intentions. If the person you are with has always been supportive and kind, don't read negatitivty into what they say because someone they used to be with operated in an underhand or abusive manner. Ttansferrance like that means that the new person is made to carry the blame for the sins of someone who has nothing to do with your relationship. If however the person you are with is continuously abusive, shady, controlling, well then you need to decide to be in it or not, and avoid trying to change them. #truth #relationshiphacks #wisdom https://www.instagram.com/p/B4Jv88EAa5j/?igshid=124as9msw0onr

Message for today : Consider the relationships you are in- are you able to express your needs? Or do you believe that they "should know better" or should read between the lines? Every time that you expect someone to think exactly like you, or read behind your smile, you put yourself in a position of potential heartache. Many people do this, then fly into despair or rage when it builds up. So here is something to think about : No, they won't necessarily think of it. If they do and you are giving off "I'm OK vibes" , they won't necessarily discuss it. Because people are wired to avoid discomfort. NO, people don't always see the silence behind your words. Stop expecting them to be mind readers. No, it doesn't mean your pride is hurt if you have to spell it out- you either want to doggedly hold onto pride or you want the relationship to work. Yes, you are allowed to have needs. If your needs don't grow as the relationship grows then that relationship is probably stagnating. The only real caution is this: your needs don't supercede the rights of anyone. If they do, you probably have a bigger problem that communication and you may need to work on yourself, not on them at all. Being unable to see the rights of others is a narcissistic/sociopathic and even psychopathic trait. Remember that if you Do communicate your valid needs and they belittle you. Because the door swings both ways. Don't wait for things to escalate before you speak up. #relationshiphacks #communication #business #friendship #howtogetwhatyouwant https://www.instagram.com/p/B3Yl9lnAIm4/?igshid=1lreysm40p16g

This goes for friendship, as much as love. Neither are a fantasy and neither is a 24/7 walk in the park. But when each person respects the Individuality and hopes and aspirations of the other, they seek one another's counsel while retaining the right to their independent decisions. Respect is one of the greatest gifts you can give, and one of the greatest losses you can suffer, as once its lost, nothing can replace it. #friendshiphacks #relationshiphacks https://www.instagram.com/p/B1YtxqZgf0v/?igshid=14iw8udqzau4v

There are certain intrinsic rights to the individual. Rights that many still fight for around the world, rights that are part and parcel of being a healthy, happy and fulfilled individual. This brief list is not by any means complete, but the gist of it is that you were created free to choose your own destiny. From that perspective you are entitled to all the things that are included in one big word: Individuality. There are also things that you are not entitled to, regardless of how badly you want them or think they are yours to take for ANY reason. Anything that is abusive of the Individuality of another is tantamount to soul murder. Wether you live with a respect for the Individuality of others or not, one thing you cannot escape, is the consequences of your own actions. It may not be today or tomorrow, but for everything you do against another out of abuse and oppression, you will no doubt some day see the consequences. You may not see the holes this creates in your own spirit but they are there. Nobody is above the law of human kindness because energy doesn't speak "entitlement". Energy, spirit, vibes.. That speaks TRUTH. Whether you believe in God by any name or the Universe by no name, what goes around has a way of coming around. Whether its good or bad when it reaches you depends on how much you've fed the beast of self entitlement. Its not about political correctness, its about balance and energy always finds a way to balance itself out. Source/The Creator/ The Universe - it is alive, breathing, responding in like to what you put out. You cannot demand respect when you refuse to give it. Abusers often believe that they "own" the person they are with, as a possession. Mind, body, connections, soul, the whole bang shoot. Such megalomania never ends well for them. If you are living with abuse, you are not alone. Your situation is not unique, as much as you may think there is no solution. Speak up, its ok if its quietly initially. We come into the world with nothing and leave with nothing but our experiences. Choose. Wisely. #entitlement #abuserecovery #relationshiphacks #positivity #motivation #counseling #PTSD #ptsdrecovery # https://www.instagram.com/p/B1YoYqFAUrR/?igshid=1jk1omijyacal

If it's not kind, uplifting, empowering and coming from a place of kindness, count me out of the conversation. The worst thing one can do is to gossip or keep company with gossips. Often the gossip isn't even true. And if it IS true, it certainly isn't beneficial to spread it or to gloat about unhappiness. When people face misfortune, when business slumps or divorces happen, when life deals others bad cards, these people are hurting and gossip about any of it can be destructive to the max. This is how some suicides happen, when people care more for details they think they k ow than the actual truth. Gossip doesn't have to be outright.. it can be veiled as "in your interest" yet nonetheless gossip it remains by the definition: "Gossip: Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true" If love and kindness isn't being served, be comfortable getting up off the table. #keepitkind #relationshiphacks https://www.instagram.com/p/B1GlLPiAsrL/?igshid=8wuw7bm6qko0

If we learn to listen to Behaviour more than words, we will find more peace in our relationships because we will make better choices. Someone who makes promises and breaks them is sending you a signal of what you mean in their life Someone who continuously cancels plans with you doesn't prioritise you and hence should not be a priority FOR you. Someone who says they love you then seeks to control you, beat you, insult you or humiliate you doesn't love anyone but themselves, so guard your heart and choose to walk away because you deserve better. Someone who does thoughtful little things for you, calls to say thanks for the time shared, texts to check if you arrived safely,makes time for moments together however few, that's the kind of person who is invested in you. It doesn't have to be a lover, it can be a friend of a colleague. The world is full of takers- become a giver who sets boundaries on how much people take. Everybody gets busy, everybody has committments, but show appreciation and make time for those who see your value enough to prioritize you. These are special people who should be held on to and given back to. #boundaries #truth #caring #relationshiphacks #truefriends #truelove https://www.instagram.com/p/Bz7V0EXgUZK/?igshid=kxglx8q8v08w