#realityrevealed

Reality TV isn’t going anywhere, but it might need to start being more “real” than just reality.

Reality TV claims it’s “real,” but let’s be honest—it’s more staged than a PR apology. Every tear, twist, and tantrum is edited for max drama. But with social media, fans aren’t just watching—they’re reacting, memeing, and fueling the chaos in real time. That “liveness”? It’s what keeps us hooked.

But I'm gonna hold your hand when I say this: Let’s be real—how “real” is too real?

(Yes, yes, I know I said ‘real’ three times…let’s just roll with it😏)

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1. Reality Check Please! 

_When inclusivity IS the stereotype

Since its 2009 debut, RuPaul’s Drag Race has turned drag queens into global superstars while shedding light on LGBTQ+ struggles. However, its early seasons—whether intentionally or not—often reinforced stereotypes like the ‘sassy gay,’ ‘catty queen,’ or ‘tragic queer,’ sparking criticism along the way.

Still, RPDR has reshaped reality TV, evolving to include trans, nonbinary, and AFAB (assigned female at birth) queens, showcasing a broader range of drag artistry.

_“Tokenism” vs. True Representation: Hello, my name is Gay, and I’d describe my personality as “the Gay dude”.

Reality TV loves to pat itself on the back for being a safe space for queer self-expression—like a glitter-covered utopia where everyone can be their most “authentic” selves; but let’s be real, not all queer identities get the same VIP access. Some fit the industry’s marketable mold, while others are conveniently left on the cutting room floor (Lovelock 2019).

LGBTQ+ representation has come a long way, but tokenism is still alive and kicking. Too often, queer contestants are cast just to tick the diversity box, only to be reduced to a stereotype or drama magnet. Even RuPaul’s Drag Race, for all its glitter and glory, has been called out for favoring polished, marketable queens while sidelining alternative drags, kings, and nonbinary performers. So while reality TV claims to be all about “realness,” it still plays favorites when it comes to who gets the spotlight.

2. The Dark Side of Reality TV

_Oh the things they do for drama...

Behind the drama that reality TV thrives on lies a troubling truth: contestants often face significant ethical challenges, from mental health struggles to edit manipulation. High-pressure environments, little mental health support, and restrictive contracts leave contestants at the mercy of producers.

And why? Because at the end of the day, reality TV isn’t about truth—it’s about entertainment. In fact, reality TV has strayed far from its documentary-style roots and is now all about

"camera-ready people (over)performing themselves in situations brimming with emotive drama, itself guaranteed by semi-scripted formats, on-set contrivances, and post-production editing". (Kavka 2018)

Translation? That jaw-dropping fight? Probably staged. That shocking confession? Heavily edited. Reality TV doesn’t just capture drama—it manufactures it.

_“Villains” are destined to be...hated? 

Reality TV sells itself as unscripted, but much of it is staged by producers and editors (Strauss 2018). They manufacture drama through casting, editing, and scripted conflicts; even the contestant selection follows a formula! I mean, every show needs a ‘villain’ to keep audiences hooked, right?

Though entertaining, villain edits have real-life consequences. Once a contestant is labeled the ‘villain,’ social media pounces—hate comments, memes, and nonstop scrutiny. What starts as TV drama quickly turns into online harassment, sometimes wrecking careers and mental health.

Sophie Gradon, a Love Island contestant from 2016, took her own life after facing relentless online bullying and harassment. Just a year later, Mike Thalassitis, another former contestant, tragically did the same.

_The Fantasy Lover

If reality TV creates villains, it also creates idols. Fans binge Love Is Blind or The Bachelor, feeling personally invested in contestants’ love lives. Social media only intensifies this, fueling DMs, comment wars, and overanalysis. But here’s the twist—contestants don’t even know their biggest fans exist. It’s a full-blown parasocial relationship, and that’s reality TV for you.

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_The show must go on!

For those who survive the chaos? Welcome to the influencer life. Love them or hate them, ex-contestants leave with brand deals, podcasts, and TikTok fame. Reality TV is just the launchpad—social media is where the real game begins!

Psst! Come a little closer! I want to tell you something… 

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Maybe the real drama isn’t on-screen—it’s us. We know it’s staged, but we still eat it up, meme it, and pick our heroes and villains.

(Meme via imgflip) Either way, the cameras keep rolling—and we keep watching.

References:

Kavka, M 2018, ‘Reality TV: its contents and discontents’, Critical Quarterly, vol. 60, no. 4, pp. 5–18.

Lovelock, M 2019, ‘Introduction’, Reality TV and Queer Identities: Sexuality, Authenticity, Celebrity, Palgrave Macmillan, pp. 1–32, viewed .