What do I (19NB) do about secretly wanting my GF (19NB) to take out their septum piercing?
My (19NB) girlfriend (19NB) just got a septum piercing. They have been wanting one for ages (since they were a young teen) and have been so excited about it! I am all for piercings (I have several, all in my ears, and I want an eyebrow piercing) and tattoos (they have one tattoo on their wrist and I love it) but I generally really don't like septum piercings and I never really have.
When they got it I told them I was very happy for them and glad they liked it. I told them I needed time to get used to their face with it but it's been a bit and I don't like it at all :/ I think they're beautiful inside and out and I love the way they look, but I just don't like the piercing. I tried looking up other jewelry that could go in a septum and I think I might like it better with a smaller closed ring, but since they just got it done recently they can't change the jewelry out yet.
I might just need to shut up and not like it that much and be fine. The other option is to have a conversation where I reaffirm that I love them very much and find them attractive, but I'm having a hard time adjusting to their face with the piercing.
We are really good at communicating usually and even have a code word that we use if we need to talk about something that's difficult to say out loud (something that we added to our relationship because I sometimes have a hard time vocalizing when I am worried or frustrated by something). Code word has helped immensely but I can't decide if this is a worthwhile situation.
It's definitely not a deal-breaker for me, and I just need someone to tell me if I'm being a baby who just needs to suck it up and deal with it because they're happy? help!
You're being a baby who just needs to suck it up and deal with it! Thanks for providing a useful script. This is extremely shallow. It's not your body, you don't need to like the piercing or jewelry. Get the fuck over it.
