#radikweers

Okay, firstly, thank you to everyone who followed my previous blog and has come and followed me here.

Moving on: today is more of a rant about stuff in my personal life, although it is related to my gender critical viewpoint. So many young women in my social circle, all in their early twenties, are identifying as “non-binary” now, and they want to go by they/them pronouns. One of them has also shortened her name to a more masculine sounding nickname—even though her name was UNISEX TO BEGIN WITH, and many men have that name. This girl is still gender-conforming in all the important ways—from obsession with make-up and beauty culture to seeking attention via sexual desirability to prioritizing the needs and wants of men in her slacktivism.

The other two “non-binary” women I know are also completely gender-conforming as women. One of them wears a ton of make-up every day and the other works as a fashion model because she is so conventionally attractive according to patriarchal standards. All three identify as queer, even though they are pretty much exclusively heterosexual. They love to advertise their kweer nb identities and blast their pronouns and selfies all over social media.

  I’m going to be really honest here, and I don’t give a shit anymore if this sounds rude. These women need to cut the shit and stop seeking attention and sympathy by putting other women down. Yes, they do put other women down, by implying that some human beings are “binary” and some are not. Because I own my female body and am honest about the sex class I occupy, they consider me and others like me—such as my mother, grandmother and most other women on earth—to be “binary” women, content on our little pink shelves. We “identify with our gender” (not), which means we chose a life of servitude and are responsible for our own oppression. I reject this entirely. It makes me rabidly angry. 

They are also part of the brigade of straight women that are now invading lesbian spaces, faking “pansexuality” and “queerness,” even though they are quite clearly not attracted to anyone but men. One friend, who I saw recently, “came out” as queer a few months ago, yet in our conversations she mentioned several recent hook-ups, all of them with men. We have known each other a long, long time and I can tell you that when this annoying phase is over, she’s going to return to being straight once she feels like settling down with a man. And it’s fine to want that, but the attention-seeking is homophobic to actual lesbians, as well as being completely transparent and annoying to those of us in her life who have to pretend to believe in it.

I am straight, and that’s fine. That’s who I am. I don’t go around asking to be included in lesbian spaces or calling lesbians derogatory names or demanding that all gay and lesbian groups be relabelled as queer groups for green undercuts and labret piercings. 

I’m sick of the pronoun shit, of these women (and some men too) who want to elevate themselves in importance over other women. I’m sick of the way they have betrayed women and feminism, the way they don’t care about actual biological women’s rights, but only about privileged 20-somethings and their microidentities and “microaggressions,” and pretty much any problem that is literally microscopic in size. And if any “nb” Aidan wants to comment on here and say, “You don’t believe in non-binary? Guess I don’t exist then,” then I will pre-emptively tell you to STFU. Obviously you exist and your female body exists in material space; but your trendy identity is stupid and sexist and is completely opposed to feminism.

We can’t let ourselves be erased because of some radikweers who think they can exist without the support of lesbians and gays.The only reason the kweer agenda of erasing sex-based reality is because they are claiming the history and societal capital the lesbians and gays have bleed and died for. They think because lesbians and gays can get married that there is nothing left that we want or need. They think that now they can make everything about them. Do they realize that if gays and lesbians hadn’t persevered in getting our rights (through death and never giving up hope) that they would have jack shit? No. Because they don’t know what to do, and wouldn’t know what to do without following in out footsteps and saying that actually, those are their footsteps and forcing the tide to go their way.

Fuck them.