#radicalselfcompassion

Some people find it easy to give love and care to someone else who is hurt or needs something from them, but find it hard to do the same for themselves when they’re feeling badly. Some people find it easy to recognize others’ needs, but struggle to know how to tune in when they feel or need something. . Having difficulty feeling compassion for oneself is something many people experience, and there are many ways to learn how to be softer with yourself. Sometimes, this experience is related to the ways we learn to treat our emotional experiences as children, and when our feelings aren’t responded to or acknowledged as important (perhaps because our parent/s or caregivers experienced the same, or are busy with multiple jobs and aren’t attuned to children’s emotional experiences, or have serious illnesses, or sometimes are abusive or neglectful), we don’t learn how to feel good about expressing our feelings and seeing someone else understand and respond to us. So we don’t learn that it’s a rewarding experience to share or connect with our feelings, and it makes sense that we might stop trying to express them or not learn to value them, because we haven’t seen that the ways we feel are important or have value to someone else. . Self-compassion can sometimes be easiest to practice when we imagine ourselves in the place of a loved one, such as a close friend. How would I care for a friend who shared they were feeling this way? Would I blame them for their feeling? Would I reject their feelings as invalid? Would I patiently listen and show them acceptance and love? When we attune to the ways we might show compassion to a loved one, we can start to figure out how to translate these loving responses to ourselves when we are in need. . For more reading, click the link in my bio to find the article “7 Signs You Grew Up with Childhood Emotional Neglect” by Dr. Jonice Webb. . #radicalselfcare #radicalselfcompassion #vulnerability #mentalhealth #selfacceptance #loveyourself #therapy #emotionalneglect #childhoodemotionalneglect #selfcompassion #healing #healingfromtrauma #kaytetherapy https://www.instagram.com/p/Bss98svn0Zb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=58qe0wkd380z