#r-dog

There have been a handful of times in my life when others have come to me for advice. Usually people don't seek out advice from me because I generally give out my thoughts without invitation. But lately a few people have been specifically asking me questions on dating and love. Two of the things I usually am most horrible at.

Sucking at these things does not me from telling them exactly what I think they should do. It is kind of like the idea of those who can do and those who can't teach. (Which is only really true when not dealing with those who teach as a profession.)

Case in point, a younger cousin of mine text me yesterday and asked when it would be acceptable to text a girl he met on NYE. I responded that he should call her on Monday and that texting is overrated.

He then went on to ask a dozen of other people and his Twitter following. I guess he didn't like my answer.

In another case, my friend R-Dog text me about a compliment a girl gave him and if she was flirting with him. I told him that she was probably just paying him a compliment but to not close the door to the possibility she could be working her way up to actually flirting.

I am sure that he ignored my response and began heavily flirting with her instead of playing the wait and see method. She probably not talking to him at all now.

Some might be discouraged by the way my advisees threw my advice out the window. I, however, am just excited that they thought to ask me.

I just wish girls would tell you what they are feeling. It would be so much easier.

That was the loaded text that a guy friend sent me today. I never responded to it because I had to think about it a little and really decide why girls don't tell boys how they feel.

After some thought I decided that the main reason why girls don't say what they feel is because when they do, guys freak the fuck out. And no girl wants a boy to freak out because then they start doing stupid things like pulling away or worse, never talking to them again. So girls just keep quite until the boy gives them signs that it is safe to tell them how they feel without suffering consequences.

Another reason why girls don't say how they feel is because sometimes we just don't know. Which can be attributed to boys doing stupid things. Sometimes a boy will give a girl mixed signals and the girl really has no idea what they should feel. Or they feel a dozen of different things and have to react differently depending on the actions of the boy.