Hello dear mod, I am exploding about this and I need help fr (at your own convenience of course)
I have been long distance friends with this person for over a year and we are really close (I think) and I tend to get too attached to people so the situation is becoming really weird (at least for me).
Both of us are on the aromantic spectrum, and while I am at this point pretty sure I feel some sort of queerplatonic attraction towards them, I am also pretty sure they don't, and I'm really damn scared they if they ever were to know it would make them uncomfortable.
If I were to tell them and they didn't react poorly to it nothing would really change, also considering we have virtually no means of seeing eachother in person, but idk it feels very disingenuous to not let them know
Advice would really be great
Sorry this ask is so late, I had a really busy spring so I didn't have the spoons to dole out advice lol. Even though the situation has probably resolved itself already I'm gonna give some advice, though, so be prepared.
You should totally tell them! Not just for the sake of being honest, but because you might be wrong about their feelings towards you. It's very easy to think someone thinks the worst about us because we see the worst in ourselves, but that's not often the case. You pretty much can't know how someone feels about you unless they tell you themselves, and I think this is doubly true for long distance. So, I would reason to bet your long distance friend likes you more than you think, anon. But then again, I don't really know because I don't know them and their feelings at all! It's up to you to figure it out.
Oh, and let me tell you this—I was someone's bisexual awakening once (they had a crush on me and I identified as a girl at the time lol), and it was awkward, yes, but only for a little while. That person and I are still close, and the two of us kinda forgot about the whole thing. So, even if your friend doesn't like you back, that doesn't mean they won't want to be friends with you at all. If they don't, fuck 'em.
(And also, I think it being queerplatonic attraction instead of romantic attraction might change things? It depends on what you mean by queerplatonic attraction lol).
Anyways, I hope this advice is helpful, even though you probably already resolved the situation by yourself lmao. Perhaps it can help you out in the futureeeee!