#q***r

I didn’t know there was one, as far as I’m aware people have made quite a few versions? If you could send me a picture (or anybody send me a picture) that would be very helpful. Thank you!

And his main counterpoint is back in the 1960's there were people using it as a "pro word." Unfortunately, that argument holds little to no ground because what else came from that era?

Rocky Horror Picture Show. Which is a God awful film about someone who rapes two people and makes the third one their sex slave. And for SOME REASON it keeps being put as this "pro lgbt" thing when it clearly isn't.

And then you have the people who have q***r screamed at them as well as other slew of slur words while getting beaten or outright KILLED. So if anything he's telling me that the lgbt community in the 1960's was extremely problematic.

Just like how you wouldn't be walking around calling people the N word because it was in MLKJR'S speech that one time. Unfortunately the q slur isn't treated the same way as it should be.

Saying any vulgar word in public is gonna get you funny looks, you're gonna be asked to leave, and people will laugh at you if you try to defend yourself.

And don't even get me started on my fucking cousin who's like "the gays stole the rainbow" and oh GOD SHUT THE FUCK UP! You have zero clue as to what you're talking about.

Using q***r as an "umbrella term" is not only wrong it's dumb. We already HAVE an umbrella term:

LGBTQIAPN (the Q stands for "Questioning")

Sure it's a sloppy mess. But the mess is inclusive unlike the slur that kids are bullshiting themselves into thinking "it's OK now"

Now if you yourself identify as that, I couldn't give two shits about that. But unfortunately that isn't the problem.

If you feel so inclined to call yourself that I don't care, but if you use that as an umbrella term against people who don't want to be called it and have had to deal with ignorant assholes who can't tell the difference than you can go eat a dick for all I care.

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in short the tedtalkee grew up only wishing for a husband to live a white pickett fence life with “practice making babies with him” and have some children, she eventually achieves this though after theyve had kids she feels like something in their marriage isnt right and she sees some their bank statements that leads her to believe she is being cheated on. she confronts her husband and he says “id never cheat on you with another woman” so she sarcastically replies “well what are you then, gay or something?” he says “so all this time you knew?” she feels because of her christian faith she cant divorce him so she tries to change him by using scripture, and their kids against him.

the rest of the video shes talking about how she did this because without him she didnt know who she was and how lgbtq+ people coming out to their straight spouses is hurting them (the straights) and the lgbtq+ partner needs to be fully honest she also calls lgbtq+ spouses coming out “a betrayal”. theres a section of this video where she is giving advice to queer (she doesnt say queer) people about this situation. oh also she says that lgbtq+ people coming out to their spouse is taking the queer persons burden and putting it onto the straights shoulders and “walking away cause thats what it kinda feels like” and she spouts so much more bs but thats all i feel like copying down rn

my input as a gay transman

fuck off Emily Reese

if you don’t know who you are in a relationship its probably not healthy

lgbtq+ people don’t need anymore unsolicited advice involving being lgbtq+ from straight people

when a queer person lies to a straight about being queer it is almost never (if ever) done to hurt them it is typically because we are scared or feel unsafe about how you would react

straight people are not the victims of queer people coming out, queer people enter relationships with straight people because they want/need to hide their sexuality or they thought they were straight because of how society conditioned them into thinking that they are/only could be straight. so sorry if us being ourselves and breaking from a situation that originated from our opression (overall heteronormative-ness of p much everything) is ‘hurting you’ (sarcasm)

straight people stop acting like youre the fucking victim